How to date introverted Christian men?

Hi everyone, I'm a 35-year-old Christian single woman. I'm outgoing, warm and love to serve the church community. However, I find myself drawn to introverted men - those who appear cool, passive and rarely express themselves. They seem to be interested in me as well but it's always hard to get conversation going with them. I don't quite understand what they need/want, and find it frustrating having to take the initiatives, which they often fail or slow to respond to. It seems that they are very uncomfortable being in a big crowd or talking about themselves. I feel very stuck and wonder how to get to know, even date introverted Christian men? How to ask them out and get them talk more about themselves? I appreciate any practical advice from you! Thanks and many blessings.

Introverts are very sensitive people. It takes a while for them to trust u. But when they dp they give fulhearted.
Its not easy but with patience it works

I'm a pretty hardcore introvert (if there is such a thing)... In my case, the best way to get me to open up would be to talk about any topic that interests me. In my case there's plenty to choose from. Everything from aviation to the stock market, to cars and photography. You'd have to find out what they are passionate about and go from there. Hopefully there will be something they like that won't bore you. You might have to try more than once. I know that if a woman starts talking to me for no real reason I get super nervous and want to just get out of the situation as quickly as possible, but then afterwards I wish I had spent more time talking to that person and would love to have another chance.

Another way is to just ask him to join you for lunch or something casual. Try not to make it sound like a date. Maybe starbucks or something. Then he won't feel too pressured to impress you. Good luck

Hi
But why should a woman make the first move? I feel that if a man is truly interested in a woman, it doesn't matter how introverted he is, he will find a way to do something about it.

So to the first poster, I would say, just be friendly with the person so that he can feel comfortable. If after that he still can't show interest then he is not interested.

But then we come to another question. If after you've gone out of your way to be friends with someone, it turns out they are not interested, what do you do then? What happens to the "friendship"?

I'm a pretty hardcore introvert (if there is such a thing)... In my case, the best way to get me to open up would be to talk about any topic that interests me. In my case there's plenty to choose from. Everything from aviation to the stock market, to cars and photography. You'd have to find out what they are passionate about and go from there. Hopefully there will be something they like that won't bore you. You might have to try more than once. I know that if a woman starts talking to me for no real reason I get super nervous and want to just get out of the situation as quickly as possible, but then afterwards I wish I had spent more time talking to that person and would love to have another chance.

Another way is to just ask him to join you for lunch or something casual. Try not to make it sound like a date. Maybe starbucks or something. Then he won't feel too pressured to impress you. Good luck

Hi zeroturbulence,
thanks so much for your genuine and useful advice! Yes, I asked the man who seems to be interested in me to attend Sunday Service together, but he never responded to my text. It is frustrating and I need so much help and wisdom from God to know whether I should try one more time or move on. Hearing your perspective gives me more knowledge and hope. Thank you.

Hi
But why should a woman make the first move? I feel that if a man is truly interested in a woman, it doesn't matter how introverted he is, he will find a way to do something about it.

So to the first poster, I would say, just be friendly with the person so that he can feel comfortable. If after that he still can't show interest then he is not interested.

But then we come to another question. If after you've gone out of your way to be friends with someone, it turns out they are not interested, what do you do then? What happens to the "friendship"?

Hi zeroturbulence,
thanks so much for your genuine and useful advice! Yes, I asked the man who seems to be interested in me to attend Sunday Service together, but he never responded to my text. It is frustrating and I need so much help and wisdom from God to know whether I should try one more time or move on. Hearing your perspective gives me more knowledge and hope. Thank you.

Can confirm. I am/used to be an introvert (less so now I think), but I did reach out to a girl to show that I was wanting to go deeper in a relationship (didn't specify romantic; didn't want to go too far and alienate her). In person, it was hard to show that I was interested, but I did things like offering to get her water at a meal (at my schools food court) and complimenting her choice of clothing and such. What I decided was to write a note expressing my appreciation of the effect she had in my life, and mentioning that I would love to keep in touch over the summer.

The last part of your comment definitely is a challenge. She doesn't really seem interested to the level I want it to go, and still being her friend might take a toll on me because just being around her makes me feel attracted to her. Things that she does that would seem normal and bland to other people causes me to feel astounded by her personality and character. Therefore being around her knowing that it didn't work out would make me feel so torn inside. Obviously she would make an excellent friend if I could just overcome that "torn" feeling.