When is it ok to distance self from parent?

Hello Marbear87,
I would recommend you borrow or acquire the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. They are Christians and clinicians with lots of experience. The book shows how to deal with difficult relationships by establishing and enforcing relational boundaries. You can avoid disrespecting your father (though he and the gf might see it otherwise) and still be firm about your views.
You can also pray that God would bring appropriate conviction on them. Don't try to be God... let Him do it His way. You are under no obligation to accept his relationship with this woman, given its history, nor to extend forgiveness when there is no repentance. Forgive them in your heart though.

As a Christian, when is it ok to draw the line and not be disrespectful to my dad?

Never.

Now you'll need to seek the Lord on how to remain respectful while disagreeing. Might I suggest reading about David's life when he disagreed with someone he respected? Saul!

Imo, its never okay to be disrespectful to your Dad... Deal with your anger and disappointment, your mom is gone now and your father has every right to move on and be happy.

As a Christian, when is it ok to draw the line and not be disrespectful to my dad?

I would just tell him how I feel and cut him off. But thats just me

when he learns how to respect others and not be just a 'me' person...

find your peace with your Maker, little one, He is our Blessed Comforter
through all of our trials and tribulations...

He can go on living a hypocritical life but I don't have to support it. Something called a healthy boundry.

David is not a good example of how to deal with a false and hypocritical Christian. The things her dad did goes against his Christian teachings and a preacher, no less. David was dealing the an anointed king, in his eyes. Different as night and day.

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What about dad's respect for his child. If the OP okays the relationship it's the same as endorsing it. What her dad is doing is continuing an illicit relationship with no repentance. This is more than moving on.

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Biblically speaking, would you like to show me what "healthy boundry" means?

There are many things the world teaches that the Bible does not.

As for hypocrisy? Can't that also be defined as someone claiming the high road on "Honor your mother and father" while doing everything but?

I see both sides having specks and logs in their eyes.

I consider the honor we're supposed to have for our parents as the same honor we're supposed to have for our king.

I'm fully aware what the father is doing is wrong, but it is not against his child. It is against his promises made to his wife, and to the promises made to the Lord. I also see no reason this has anything to do with respecting or disrespecting his daughter. And, even if it is about that, who are we that we should demand or seek respect?

My brother did the same thing to his ex-wife that this father did. Cheated on her. And then cheated to get out of the marriage. He remains my brother. I feel terrible for his ex-wife. (She is happily married to new guy now, so not as bad as I felt while it was happening, but she was so distraught worrying about her then-husbands actions that she feared he was becoming suicidal. He wasn't. He was feeling guilty from cheating, but not enough to quit cheating.)

He asked us to go to his second marriage. The purpose of going to a wedding is to witness the beginning of a godly partnership. We didn't go, because we disagreed it should have ever happened. Yet, he is still my brother.

And now she is my sister-in-law. Out of all the things that went terribly wrong in that relationship, it had nothing to do with disrespecting me. Nor did my actions have anything to do with respecting or disrespecting my brother. He's still my brother. The woman he cheated with is now my sister. And my nephews are now my nephews.

Maybe if we weren't so busy thinking of ourselves all the time, there would be more room to love. And to love those who it is hard to love -- family. If Jesus could love us enough to lower himself into human form, go through a very tough life, and do so triumphantly, even as he prayed for God's forgiveness to the very ones putting him into that pain of being hung by nails onto wood, knowing, all along that he was doing this for people who cheat on him, we'd have more room to forgive and love others in return, even in the midst of screwing up royally!

Well God does not approve of this kind of behavior.

Two wrongs never make a right.

Does the church where he preaches know about his conduct?

My concerns would be over him making things right with the Lord.

You will not need to be concerned about separation if you provide him with biblical reasons for him to come clean about what he has done. Scripture says that you can be sure that your sin will find you out. One day all will be made manifest. Nothing is hidden from God.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

No, the church does not know the truth. He says he's repented in his own ways, which is totally upto him. I'm not trying to control that. But I just don't see it. Especially when he allows this woman to be nasty toward his own kids.