If You Were to Close Your CC Account and Come Back as Another Name, What Would Be the Reasons Why?

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Oh yeah, that's another hallmark of yours. We know it is you when you just do not give up on insisting that somebody owes you an apology. I'm not sure what it is about you and demanding apologies, but you're like a dog with an old bone. It is distinctive enough to remove any doubt of who is behind that new nickname, whatever it happens to be at any given time.
More deluded nonsense on your part. Far from seeking an apology, I have sought forgiveness. You really are one, big jumbled mess. You should spend a lot less time spouting off on forums like this, and a lot more time on your knees before God.
 

Lynx

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Do you know what is even more amusing?

I just received a notification that I have been awarded with a trophy.

For what?

"Keeps coming back."

lol.

Where is the nearest pawn shop?
They won't buy it. I've already tried.
 

seoulsearch

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What I realize is that Seoul brought up that past experience, and I sought to address it privately with her in the hope of reconciliation...as Jesus instructed his disciples. You know, go to them FIRST before getting anybody else involved. Anyhow, if you were a true friend of Seoul, then your comments would have been directed towards her. After all, she is the one who is harboring unforgiveness in her heart...and for 2 years and 9 months to boot.
Sounds like your resume to me, Lynx. Far from causing trouble, I have actively sought reconciliation for almost 3 years now. She refuses to forgive. You know what Jesus taught about that, don't you? Stop being a lap cat, and try being her true friend by telling her that she is wrong for harboring unforgiveness in her heart.
I have really tried to restrain from posting too much here, but as I was praying on my way home from work, I told God, I'm sorry if this is too much -- please deal with me however you have to, but I think I need to say something.

One of the reasons I've been torn is because I never want to betray the people who have chosen to confide in me, but I feel this must be said.

First, yes, you are the one who seems to keep pursuing me for some kind of reconciliation. You PM'ed me (I did not approach you,) under a new name you had here and didn't tell me who you were, but as you can see, the regulars always know. We just exchanged casual messages, nothing more. I answered to be polite. You keep talking about a "reconciliation" -- but there is nothing to reconcile. We were never friends.

Your first approach is always very friendly and helpful. But after some time, if you don't get the specific responses you're looking for, then to you, it means the other person is doing something wrong. You always insists that you only want to help. But to you, the other person always misunderstands, misconstrues, and mistakes your good intentions, all to your detriment. You then proceed to tell them every which way that they are misperceiving you, without ever taking in what they are saying to you in return.

I'm mentioning this because we have a lot of discussions on the forum about how to stay in our walk with Christ, how to not harbor unforgiveness, but still know when to let people go. We are not required to keep everyone in our life, or even communicate with them. If anything, Lynx and Cinder will tell you the thing I agonize most over is not helping people enough and feeling I'm failing if I don't try hard enough. But I know there are times when you have to let go and cut people off.

I am asking you to let me go. Please do not contact me in future names under PM, and if you can help it, please do not come after me in the forums. I know this can be unavoidable because it's a public space, but what I mean is, I'm beginning to feel like I'm being stalked.

It's one of those situations where yes, someone might have what they believe are the best intentions, but for your own reason, you say, "That's so kind of you, thank you, but I'm good," and that person continues to try to force themselves into your circle.

And suddenly, they start showing up where you work. Where you hang out. Anywhere they can get your attention. They start sliding into your PM's, and you try to be polite, but still, they persist. And when that isn't enough, they start telling your friends, "Hey, if you were REALLY her friend, you'd tell her stop holding her unforgiveness -- and listen to me! Get her to accept all this effort I'm making to try to reconcile with her! It's what Jesus teaches us!"

The reason Cinder and Lynx are my friends is because if anything, they scold me enough to keep me out of toxic situations rather than trying to push me into them.

And I am losing count of the number of women here on this site who have approached me in PM about you following the exact same patterns with them (over a period of years, not just in the time of this thread.) And I have agonized over saying something because some wanted me to go to the moderator, citing that I was well-known here and might be believed enough to have something done about it.

But I told them, I can't. If you want to say something, you have to go to them yourself, because I can't do or say anything just based on what I've been told. I can only go on my own experience.

So yes, these exchanges in this thread are very much an example of my experience with you -- repeatedly. The only thing that changes is the current name you're calling yourself and what thread it's in.

You told me to ask God if you would ever lie to me.

As I told you, I ask God about everything (as if I can't come up with that genius idea on my own.)

And I believe God told me, "He BELIEVES he would never lie to you." And I sincerely believe that.

But whether you believe you would never lie and what you actually do... are two very different things. Normally, yes, I would do this in private. But so many others have had similar problems, that I felt it was important to give an example here of one way to handle this if anyone else should encounter it.

I understand I might be letting some people down here, and I do pray they can forgive me, but I feel there's just no other way to say what I feel needed to be said. If I ever do need to go to a moderator, I will simply direct them to this thread, let that suffice, and accept whatever their decision may be.

I am asking you, among our Christian brethren as witnesses, please stop trying to force your way into some kind of friendship or even communication with me.

And please stop cutting down the people who are actually my real friends, whom I may have met here on the forum, but now fly across the country to spend time with in real life.
 
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They won't buy it. I've already tried.
You must admit that in the light of this discussion, especially in relation to me reappearing here so many times in the past, being awarded with a trophy for "Keeps coming back" is a bit humorous.
 

Lynx

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More deluded nonsense on your part. Far from seeking an apology, I have sought forgiveness. You really are one, big jumbled mess. You should spend a lot less time spouting off on forums like this, and a lot more time on your knees before God.
So a whole bunch of people give you advice, and you don't like it, so it's all THEIR fault. All of them are wrong. You alone are right.

If I was planning a trip to a city, and everybody I knew who had been to that city told me, dude don't go! You'll be sorry! I would start getting the impression that I really probably shouldn't go to that city.

I bet you would assume you would be perfectly fine, because all those people have no clue what they are talking about.

Lots of people are giving you advice, trying to help you. You keep assuming they are just haters.

This is why you keep not improving.
 
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My experience as well
Wow.

In actuality, as you and I both know, and as I could easily confirm in your own words to me from past email exchanges, you and I got along fine when we spoke privately until your parents started making wild accusations about me like I was in the Illuminati because of how I was wearing a Christian themed ballcap in my profile picture at that time.

Anyhow, everything will all ultimately be sorted about before Christ one day. For that, I am thankful.
 

HopeinHim98

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Wow.

In actuality, as you and I both know, and as I could easily confirm in your own words to me from past email exchanges, you and I got along fine when we spoke privately until your parents started making wild accusations about me like I was in the Illuminati because of how I was wearing a Christian themed ballcap in my profile picture at that time.

Anyhow, everything will all ultimately be sorted about before Christ one day. For that, I am thankful.
I agree they were overly cautious in some ways, but there was way more to it than that.
 
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I agree they were overly cautious in some ways, but there was way more to it than that.
That's right. There was. They also did not like the fact that I was sharing biblical truths with you concerning what Paul said in 1 Corinthians. More sin on their part.
 

HopeinHim98

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Wow.

In actuality, as you and I both know, and as I could easily confirm in your own words to me from past email exchanges, you and I got along fine when we spoke privately until your parents started making wild accusations about me like I was in the Illuminati because of how I was wearing a Christian themed ballcap in my profile picture at that time.

Anyhow, everything will all ultimately be sorted about before Christ one day. For that, I am thankful.
That was more a kneejerk response when they already had concerns. And they didn't make that very accusation, it was more that they it looked like something like that. Not saying I agree with that but anyway.
 

Lynx

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I have really tried to restrain from posting too much here, but as I was praying on my way home from work, I told God, I'm sorry if this is too much -- please deal with me however you have to, but I think I need to say something.

One of the reasons I've been torn is because I never want to betray the people who have chosen to confide in me, but I feel this must be said.

First, yes, you are the one who seems to keep pursuing me for some kind of reconciliation. You PM'ed me (I did not approach you,) under a new name you had here and didn't tell me who you were, but as you can see, the regulars always know. We just exchanged casual messages, nothing more. I answered to be polite. You keep talking about a "reconciliation" -- but there is nothing to reconcile. We were never friends.

Your first approach is always very friendly and helpful. But after some time, if you don't get the specific responses you're looking for, then to you, it means the other person is doing something wrong. You always insists that you only want to help. But to you, the other person always misunderstands, misconstrues, and mistakes your good intentions, all to your detriment. You then proceed to tell them every which way that they are misperceiving you, without ever taking in what they are saying to you in return.

I'm mentioning this because we have a lot of discussions on the forum about how to stay in our walk with Christ, how to not harbor unforgiveness, but still know when to let people go. We are not required to keep everyone in our life, or even communicate with them. If anything, Lynx and Cinder will tell you the thing I agonize most over is not helping people enough and feeling I'm failing if I don't try hard enough. But I know there are times when you have to let go and cut people off.

I am asking you to let me go. Please do not contact me in future names under PM, and if you can help it, please do not come after me in the forums. I know this can be unavoidable because it's a public space, but what I mean is, I'm beginning to feel like I'm being stalked.

It's one of those situations where yes, someone might have what they believe are the best intentions, but for your own reason, you say, "That's so kind of you, thank you, but I'm good," and that person continues to try to force themselves into your circle.

And suddenly, they start showing up where you work. Where you hang out. Anywhere they can get your attention. They start sliding into your PM's, and you try to be polite, but still, they persist. And when that isn't enough, they start telling your friends, "Hey, if you were REALLY her friend, you'd tell her stop holding her unforgiveness -- and listen to me! Get her to accept all this effort I'm making to try to reconcile with her! It's what Jesus teaches us!"

The reason Cinder and Lynx are my friends is because if anything, they scold me enough to keep me out of toxic situations rather than trying to push me into them.

And I am losing count of the number of women here on this site who have approached me in PM about you following the exact same patterns with them (over a period of years, not just in the time of this thread.) And I have agonized over saying something because some wanted me to go to the moderator, citing that I was well-known here and might be believed enough to have something done about it.

But I told them, I can't. If you want to say something, you have to go to them yourself, because I can't do or say anything just based on what I've been told. I can only go on my own experience.

So yes, these exchanges in this thread are very much an example of my experience with you -- repeatedly. The only thing that changes is the current name you're calling yourself and what thread it's in.

You told me to ask God if you would ever lie to me.

As I told you, I ask God about everything (as if I can't come up with that genius idea on my own.)

And I believe God told me, "He BELIEVES he would never lie to you." And I sincerely believe that.

But whether you believe you would never lie and what you actually do... are two very different things. Normally, yes, I would do this in private. But so many others have had similar problems, that I felt it was important to give an example here of one way to handle this if anyone else should encounter it.

I understand I might be letting some people down here, and I do pray they can forgive me, but I feel there's just no other way to say what I feel needed to be said. If I ever do need to go to a moderator, I will simply direct them to this thread, let that suffice, and accept whatever their decision may be.

I am asking you, among our Christian brethren as witnesses, please stop trying to force your way into some kind of friendship or even communication with me.

And please stop cutting down the people who are actually my real friends, whom I may have met here on the forum, but now fly across the country to spend time with in real life.
Hmm, so he has the same pattern in multiple private chats with many people, so much that they have been complaining about it. Interesting.
 

HopeinHim98

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@HopeinHim98

I see that you deleted your post. Hopefully, that is because God convicted you of lying.
No it was 100% truly how I felt. I didn't want everything to get brought up here that's why I deleted it. But oh well, everything will all come out one day anyway so it's okay.
 

seoulsearch

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What I realize is that Seoul brought up that past experience, and I sought to address it privately with her in the hope of reconciliation...as Jesus instructed his disciples. You know, go to them FIRST before getting anybody else involved. Anyhow, if you were a true friend of Seoul, then your comments would have been directed towards her. After all, she is the one who is harboring unforgiveness in her heart...and for 2 years and 9 months to boot.
Sounds like your resume to me, Lynx. Far from causing trouble, I have actively sought reconciliation for almost 3 years now. She refuses to forgive. You know what Jesus taught about that, don't you?Stop being a lap cat, and try being her true friend by telling her that she is wrong for harboring unforgiveness in her heart.

And I know what you are trying to present to the audience.

You're trying to say, "See everyone? I've done nothing but try to minister to this woman, to shower her with kindness and Christian love, but she refuses to forgive. I've done everything the Lord says to do in order to reconcile with someone, and she won't listen."

For everyone who disagrees with how I've handled this, I want you to know I understand.

But, and I know there are people out there, both men and women, who are going through or have experienced this.

If you are dealing with someone trying to make you accept them into your life, and when you don't give them the response they want, they tell you everything you're doing wrong when they are only trying to "minister" to you "in the name of the Lord," please consider the situation very carefully.

Pray about it, talk with your friends and loved ones, get their input.

When someone tries to force their ministry onto you, I personally consider this to be a form of borderline stalking and abuse that's all hidden "under the name of Jesus."

I feel passionately about this because I am very adamant about protecting other singles from this very thing, because it is something I will try to get away from at all costs.
 

seoulsearch

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Hmm, so he has the same pattern in multiple private chats with many people, so much that they have been complaining about it. Interesting.
Not merely complaining, but these women have been absolute anguish over the situation.
 
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Well, in an odd sense, I am happy that I got involved in this thread. If nothing else, I learned some things here today. Not pleasant things, but I will definitely take something away from this conversation.

I will also leave with a greater appreciation that the one who formed the eye, and sees all things, and that the one who formed the ear, and hears all things, will ultimately be my Judge.
 

Magenta

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Not merely complaining, but these women have been absolute anguish over the situation.
Known to exploit others for personal gain, psychopaths are skilled at manipulating and deceiving others to achieve
their goals, often using charm and charisma to gain trust and control. They often have an inflated sense of self-
importance and entitlement, believing they are superior to others, but they lack empathy and emotional capacity.
 
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Known to exploit others for personal gain, psychopaths are skilled at manipulating and deceiving others to achieve their goals, often using charm and charisma to gain trust and control. They often have an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement, believing they are superior to others, but they lack empathy and emotional capacity.
Now, I am a psychopath? If I stick around long enough, I might be accused of shooting JFK.

Not only is it interesting to get such an evaluation from somebody who regularly spews venom at other members here in the BDF, but it is frightening that you believe that I am into self-importance and superiority when my whole life screams (for those who actually know me in real life) self-denial and servanthood.

Anyhow, Christians have not been called to defend themselves, but the gospel instead, so I will relent.

I wish you all the best.
 

Cameron143

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Now, I am a psychopath? If I stick around long enough, I might be accused of shooting JFK.

Not only is it interesting to get such an evaluation from somebody who regularly spews venom at other members here in the BDF, but it is frightening that you believe that I am into self-importance and superiority when my whole life screams (for those who actually know me in real life) self-denial and servanthood.

Anyhow, Christians have not been called to defend themselves, but the gospel instead, so I will relent.

I wish you all the best.
Did you shoot JFK?