And you miss the spiritual context- which is the important context.
It is talking about the elect versus the non-elect in the spiritual, not about the temporal within the earthly.
Jacob is symbolic of the elect who will/must become saved; Esau of the non-elect who can never become saved.
[Rom 9:11, 13, 15-16 KJV]
11 (For [the children] being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth
13 As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated. ...
15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
16 So then [it is] not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
[Rom 9:23 KJV]
23 And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory,