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Nufan

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What will you do if the Lord wants your church to plant churches elsewhere?

There are pros and cons to every situation. I've been a part of both affiliated and non affiliated churches. The only issue for me was whether my family and I were growing in the Lord.

It is difficult in our day and time to find churches that truly worship in spirit and truth, but they do exist. If you can't find one, get together with like-minded people and start a house church and see what the LORD might do.
Non denominational does not mean that they are a non tithing church. Potters house and the door for example claim to be non denominational but they are part of christian fellowship ministries and is ran and monitored by Wayman Mitchell who use to be with for square church.
 

Nufan

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Say Nufan, maybe you should just move down here to West Tennessee. Maybe churches down here are just in general different from churches where you live.
I believe I can find a group here in my area. I just haven't really found one yet, but I'm doing my research. I'm using discernment and I'm dialing it in. As someone said, maybe I need to start forming my own group. Of course, this wouldn't be to bring division, need a group of people that come together to talk about God, we share the Bible, we pray for one another, we help 1 another, that's really what matters. I don't want to go through a church or an institution. I would consider one that doesn't pay tiths. But really that's not what I'm trying to discuss.What I'm discussing is that for someone who may be a skeptic or a non-believer. They really are treading in dangerous waters when looking for a church. Because most of these churches will not lead you on the straight and narrow path. Most of them are watered down And worldly establishments that are only interested in increasing the numbers and increasing the profits. The bar has become so low now to be a Christian. I don't even know what it means to be a Christian anymore. It seems like anybody could be a Christian. They just gotta say the prayer and go to the altar.
 

Nufan

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Say Nufan, maybe you should just move down here to West Tennessee. Maybe churches down here are just in general different from churches where you live.
Another option I would consider is maybe just going to the bible studies and taking part in the activities, but not attend church. I don't want to hear from the pastor, I don't want to hear what the institution has to say.
 

Cameron143

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Non denominational does not mean that they are a non tithing church. Potters house and the door for example claim to be non denominational but they are part of christian fellowship ministries and is ran and monitored by Wayman Mitchell who use to be with for square church.
Be an unaffiliated home church and buy a coffee maker. You're all set.
 

seoulsearch

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Be an unaffiliated home church and buy a coffee maker. You're all set.
Cameron said the magic words: "Coffee maker."

Once you get your home church set up, expect a few guests from this forum. ;)
 

Subhumanoidal

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The irony of the OP refusing to go to a church due to lack of unity yet simultaneously bashing All churches, of which he's only seen or been to a minute portion of, is hard to miss.
How can you bash thousands of churches, preachers and congregations while complaining about a lack of unity. Where is the unity in that behavior?
Also there are people holding differing views than you and you are sticking to what you believe is right and arguing with them. The very thing you're complaining about others doing.
You're talking unity but not even doing it yourself.
Not to mention the "alcoholic" example. Firstly none of those credentials come from God, but rather institutions, who have their own view of things. Exactly what you're complaining about. So how could you view someone with man-made credentials coming through an institute as someone automatically worth learning from, but then say churches are not?
Second it's odd to say that all that knowledge is what drove him to drink. What? Where? How? That makes zero sense at all.
I could go on but I think this demonstrates it's easy to Talk about unity, but not easy to Live it. That you're questioning your faith does not dismiss you from the fact that you are not living out the things you're complaining about.
Just like talking about unity and not wanting to be called a Christian is not unity.
 

Lynx

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I believe I can find a group here in my area. I just haven't really found one yet, but I'm doing my research. I'm using discernment and I'm dialing it in. As someone said, maybe I need to start forming my own group. Of course, this wouldn't be to bring division, need a group of people that come together to talk about God, we share the Bible, we pray for one another, we help 1 another, that's really what matters. I don't want to go through a church or an institution. I would consider one that doesn't pay tiths. But really that's not what I'm trying to discuss.What I'm discussing is that for someone who may be a skeptic or a non-believer. They really are treading in dangerous waters when looking for a church. Because most of these churches will not lead you on the straight and narrow path. Most of them are watered down And worldly establishments that are only interested in increasing the numbers and increasing the profits. The bar has become so low now to be a Christian. I don't even know what it means to be a Christian anymore. It seems like anybody could be a Christian. They just gotta say the prayer and go to the altar.
Oh... No no no, it's not like that any more.

I mean it USED to be like that, for about three decades. As little as six years ago it used to be like that. But the last few years Christianity's popularity has gone waaaaaay down. Easy believism is going out.

Take heart, if that's what is important to you. It's getting a LOT easier to tell real Christians these days. The fakes are falling out faster than fleas when you give your dog a bath.
 

Nufan

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The irony of the OP refusing to go to a church due to lack of unity yet simultaneously bashing All churches, of which he's only seen or been to a minute portion of, is hard to miss.
How can you bash thousands of churches, preachers and congregations while complaining about a lack of unity. Where is the unity in that behavior?
Also there are people holding differing views than you and you are sticking to what you believe is right and arguing with them. The very thing you're complaining about others doing.
You're talking unity but not even doing it yourself.
Not to mention the "alcoholic" example. Firstly none of those credentials come from God, but rather institutions, who have their own view of things. Exactly what you're complaining about. So how could you view someone with man-made credentials coming through an institute as someone automatically worth learning from, but then say churches are not?
Second it's odd to say that all that knowledge is what drove him to drink. What? Where? How? That makes zero sense at all.
I could go on but I think this demonstrates it's easy to Talk about unity, but not easy to Live it. That you're questioning your faith does not dismiss you from the fact that you are not living out the things you're complaining about.
Just like talking about unity and not wanting to be called a Christian is not unity.
Again, it's not me that needs to prove myself. I'm not the one making the claims. And talking about how powerful and great God is and being the example of what it means to follow God. And unfortunately, it's a sad example. If you're claiming to know God and you're making all these big claims and you're not able to produce the fruit and back it up with evidence. Then step aside and stop calling yourself a church or a Christian. Plain and simple.
 

Nufan

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The irony of the OP refusing to go to a church due to lack of unity yet simultaneously bashing All churches, of which he's only seen or been to a minute portion of, is hard to miss.
How can you bash thousands of churches, preachers and congregations while complaining about a lack of unity. Where is the unity in that behavior?
Also there are people holding differing views than you and you are sticking to what you believe is right and arguing with them. The very thing you're complaining about others doing.
You're talking unity but not even doing it yourself.
Not to mention the "alcoholic" example. Firstly none of those credentials come from God, but rather institutions, who have their own view of things. Exactly what you're complaining about. So how could you view someone with man-made credentials coming through an institute as someone automatically worth learning from, but then say churches are not?
Second it's odd to say that all that knowledge is what drove him to drink. What? Where? How? That makes zero sense at all.
I could go on but I think this demonstrates it's easy to Talk about unity, but not easy to Live it. That you're questioning your faith does not dismiss you from the fact that you are not living out the things you're complaining about.
Just like talking about unity and not wanting to be called a Christian is not unity.
Also, what I'm claiming is that a lot of the churches are man-made institutions. That's what I've been talking about this whole time. So my example about the drunk applies. If someone has the credentials and the qualifications to be a pastor but he beats his wife and is molesting little children, is he someone that you should listen to and follow?
 

Lynx

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Again, it's not me that needs to prove myself. I'm not the one making the claims. And talking about how powerful and great God is and being the example of what it means to follow God. And unfortunately, it's a sad example. If you're claiming to know God and you're making all these big claims and you're not able to produce the fruit and back it up with evidence. Then step aside and stop calling yourself a church or a Christian. Plain and simple.
They are free to call themselves whatever they want, just as you are free to go around pointing a finger and saying they are not REAL Christians.

Frankly what I've had quite enough of is people running around trying to call other people out as fakes. Everybody's trying to play watchdog, or maybe measuring stick, trying to ascertain whether everybody else is a real Christian or not.

I got all I can handle making sure I'm a Christian. So do the people I might criticize for not being real christians. They probably don't need my help and I certainly don't have the time to measure out their lives AND mine.

And the next time someone tells me how not-Christian some alleged Christians are, I'm going to get very sarcastic and very fault finding with the person trying to do the measuring. Best way to shut up a nitpicker is to pick a few of his own nits and hold them up for inspection.
 

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In terms of differences with Christian denominations these are over more minor doctrines, or really over largely the question of authority. This is why the 3 points listed in Post #4 (Jesus life as explained in the Apostle's Creed, the trinity doctrine describing God as explained in the Athanasian Creed, and holding the Bible as the divinely inspired religious text of Christianity) are really the main unifier and way to distinguish a legitimate Christian denomination from either a pagan religion or a heretical sect. All valid Christians are unified as a whole Christian religion in that they hold the 3 beliefs listed.

A 4th perhaps side point that is sometimes made is that a valid denomination should have a historical link to the apostolic succession as well to distinguish it from a more modern cult or a passing movement that comes and goes in the course of history. The historical link to the apostolic succession gives a sort of objective chain from the apostles in the Bible to the modern day as opposed to a newfound and questionable denomination that claims to have some new revelation to try to justify them bringing a different gospel typically to the worldly benefit of one person (a cult leader) or a group of people or political movement. Though one could even consider this something of a moot point since most newfound denominations that do not have a historical link to the apostles also tend to reject one or more of the three core beliefs of Christianity and therefore they could be considerred wholly different religions or elsewise heretical to the point of being outside of the unity of Christianity (ie: islam, jehovah's witnesses, mormonism, etc.)
 

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Nufan, you seem to be on the right track. The only thing I see that could potentially become a problem for you is your insistence on showing everyone how bad the established religious system is. If you feel you have the truth in you, and want to follow Christ, then do so; just let your light shine. You don't have to get involved in a struggle you can never win. Jesus Himself said: "Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit." Matthew 15:14
 

notmyown

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I agree that all men know that you are my disciple.If you love one another but really that's the problem.As I don't believe that the churches are loving , they are bigoted. Also what Make you think that just because its a church that they have their lamp.I would argue the fact that most of the churches and the world today have lost their lampstand. I'm simply pointing out how I would discern if it's a church with a lampstand. Is the church truly loving or is it an act? My experience has been that usually churches are more focused on increasing the numbers. They want butts in the seat and money in the plate, and they'll do whatever they have to make that happen.Because it's a business. You will actually find that when it comes to the pastor his success usually is determined by the amount of people in his congregation that attend on a regular basis and that The Other pastors that have the Higher numbers will look Down on The Other pastors that have the lower numbers and they will become judgmental towards them. Also, when you're dealing with higher upd, you're dealing with an organization that supports and funds the church, and the congregation. Then you have to play by their rules and do what they want. And that's where things start to get messy too. The pastor can't teach what he wants to teach, he can't really share the truth the way that he knows that he should share the truth, because he's being censored and monitored because they're more concerned about making money then actually teaching people how to follow christ and be a true disciple of Jesus. Why because being a disciple of Jesus Christ and truly following him is not popular.They've tested it, they know it doesn't work. Also, there's a fear that if one becomes a strong follower of Jesus Christ, that they would no longer need the institution. They gotta keep you in a state of longing for more. They gotta keep you in a state of searching for more. They gotta keep you in a state of lack so you're invested and dependent on the church and what they offer you. I don't know when a church building and a pastor and an institution and a business model became the church or the bride of Christ, because the bibles very clear that when 2 or more gathered in my name, I am there amongst them. The church is the believers coming together and sharing praying and helping one another. Not going to an establishment, and donating your money for a service, a sermon, and a music performance. It's become more like a social gathering or a club than anything else, and it seems like church members keep this jesus private and only share it amongst other club members. Again, I'm not saying that all are like that. But the bar is so low now to become a Christian, anyone can become a follower of Christ now. Really that's complete nonsense. To say that all I have to do is say a prayer and come to the altar. And I'll be saved is complete nonsense. We are told in scripture that the path is narrow.
So how can you tell me that all I have to do is say a little prayer and come to the altar and I'll be saved. That's not a narrow path.
i cannot control what "they" do. but i can have some control over what i do. i can love my brothers and sisters... anyone in Christ can do this.

But the bar is so low now to become a Christian, anyone can become a follower of Christ now.
welp, the bar's always been low. only wretched sinners who see their need of a Savior need apply. isn't that Good News? :)
 

notmyown

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I want to make sure I'm understanding you here. Are you saying that you gotta be bigoted to follow Christ?
lol, in a sense, as the world sees us, yeah we're "bigots"!

Christianity presents an absolute truth claim-- there is salvation in no one else; for there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men by which we must be saved.

the world doesn't tend to like absolute truth claims, unless it's the one making them.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Also, what I'm claiming is that a lot of the churches are man-made institutions. That's what I've been talking about this whole time. So my example about the drunk applies. If someone has the credentials and the qualifications to be a pastor but he beats his wife and is molesting little children, is he someone that you should listen to and follow?
I really feel the love and unity flowing from you 😂
And if you'd read what I said, I said claiming that his knowledge drove him to drink didn't make sense. At no point did I say anything at all about whether or not anyone should listen to such a person. 😂
 

Nufan

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I really feel the love and unity flowing from you 😂
And if you'd read what I said, I said claiming that his knowledge drove him to drink didn't make sense. At no point did I say anything at all about whether or not anyone should listen to such a person. 😂
Should we follow your example subhumanoidal? Do you reflect christianity? Are your actions an example of gods power? If my example is poor, then why is your response matching my example. Shouldn't you provide me with a better example?
 

Nufan

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i cannot control what "they" do. but i can have some control over what i do. i can love my brothers and sisters... anyone in Christ can do this.



welp, the bar's always been low. only wretched sinners who see their need of a Savior need apply. isn't that Good News? :)
Jesus bar wasn't low. Why is the pastors bar low?
 

Nufan

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lol, in a sense, as the world sees us, yeah we're "bigots"!

Christianity presents an absolute truth claim-- there is salvation in no one else; for there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men by which we must be saved.

the world doesn't tend to like absolute truth claims, unless it's the one making them.
Making an absolute truth claim is ok but those who follow the one teaching the truth claim must reflect their mastor, or its not a truth claim. Belife without action is just theory.
 

Nufan

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Nufan, you seem to be on the right track. The only thing I see that could potentially become a problem for you is your insistence on showing everyone how bad the established religious system is. If you feel you have the truth in you, and want to follow Christ, then do so; just let your light shine. You don't have to get involved in a struggle you can never win. Jesus Himself said: "Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit." Matthew 15:14
Thanks for this. Your right.