you can't see beyond this seeming impossible conundrum because ....
because you have chosen to learn these doctrines from men, good men, I think Calvin is a brilliant theologian, Spurgeon is beloved to me. Yet when I read that God predestined men to be damned I sought God and cried for understanding.
God will teach me as readily as He will teach Calvin or Spurgeon. But Calvin never asked God, that's right. He was caught on the hop by one of his students who put the case to him in a question "If God has predestined us to saved and others are not saved, doesn't that mean God has predestined to damn them"
Calvin was stunned, he hesitated a long time thinking about it before reluctantly acknowledging that it must be true.
It has only ever been a supposition based upon pure human logic. The scripture is silent and Calvin's greater wisdom would have been to stay silent too. But he was on the spot.
God does not work according to human logic.
to deny that God ordains all things including the salvation of His elect by way of His grace and the damnation of the wicked by way of their sin unto His greater glory is a denial of the plain truth of Holy Scripture and you seek to deny this because it does not fit into your Amyraldian point of view which proposes a hypothetical universalism based upon a false assumption that Christ's sacrifice is sufficient to save every person who believes without realising that not all are given belief to be saved.

