I would gladly rather be a street sweeper in heaven than the wealthiest and most powerful person in hell. I'd make that choice over and over again and twice on Sundays giggling and laughing at the outcome of my good fortune.
YMMV
The cross is an execution device that had the specific function of humiliating those who were executed.
"If any would be my disciple he should pick up his cross and follow me"
Luke 9:23. Matthew 16:24&25
One has to be discipled first before you can take up your cross effectively. Jesus is after the heart motives behind behavioral sin not the behavior itself . You seem to be expecting things from non discipled Christians that don’t happen till one gets discipled. Jesus’ call to the young in faith is simply
““Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.””
Matthew 11:28-30 NIV
Jesus even when he called the disciples simply said “follow me” that was not predicated on them having to clean themselves up or “stop sinning “ before they followed him. Jesus then took them immediately into immersed apprenticeship with Him it was their daily life reality. The disciples were living with Jesus 24/7 for 3 years of direct discipleship. The behavioral sins stop , when one is so discipled that in your heart it would be foolish to continue behavioral sin and then begins the work in the heart that Jesus is really after. Most modern Christians are leaning into God 1hour a week on Sunday mornings without much thought of Jesus at all Mon-Sat. It’s all most modern Christians have known sadly because it’s all anyone offers to them. If the mass of Christians were invited into true daily discipleship , not church service but true real life daily apprenticeship to the ways of Jesus in their lives it wouldn’t be long before the behavioral sins would stop and the hearts would transform to no longer desire the sin.
Christians have largely lost what discipleship truly was is it any wonder we keep on with behavioral sin when the hearts of so many aren’t being transformed? When a believers heart truly experiences the Love of God and it begins to penetrate into their heart and soul past the bone and marrow that is when you see transformed lives. But they need to see that Love of Christ penetrate their hearts and that can’t be done by a 1hour a week church service or dutiful, obligatory servant hood to a church organization.