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Berry_Cape

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently. My boyfriend (who is not Homeric's father) has suggested I should hit/spank or otherwise physically punish my son.
Should I?
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
 

HealthAndHappiness

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Before anything else, I would watch this short message of God's grace. Then I would likewise sit your son down with you, free of distractions to listen to it and pray at the end. When you are both assured of this, then the Lord can start helping with the behavior problem and wisdom concerning that challenge.

God's kindness in spite of all our misbehaviors.

 

Magenta

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Welcome!
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Magenta

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently.
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
How old is Homeric? How do you normally discipline him?
 

MsMediator

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This is something to discuss with your son's father if you are still in contact. Find out why your son is angry. Maybe he has some valid reasons. Personally, I would not spank a child.
 

Gideon300

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently. My boyfriend (who is not Homeric's father) has suggested I should hit/spank or otherwise physically punish my son.
Should I?
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
The Bible says that if you love your child, you will discipline him. That means physical. There is an age when it is too late to use the strap. You will be amazed at the difference if you obey God on this issue.
 

Dino246

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently. My boyfriend (who is not Homeric's father) has suggested I should hit/spank or otherwise physically punish my son.
Should I?
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
Hi and welcome to CC...
It's probably a bad idea to post your son's (very uncommon) first name here, as everything you post can be searched.

I would encourage you to read the book Boundaries with Children by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
 

maxwel

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First of all, if a kid is over 5, he should have a job.
Second, after a long shift in the coal mine... he'll be way too tired to cause any trouble.



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Godsgirl1983

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I would suggest that you drop the "on again off again" relationship with the boyfriend (who is not the father) and focus on fixing the "on again off again" relationship with your husband ( and is husband even the father?)
You're running around the world splitting time between 2 men, and wondering why your child has behavior issues?
You are a big part of the problem.

And before anyone gasps over what I've said, I suggest you look over this persons profile (which, btw, I shared a screenshot in another thread of what is currently on the profile)

Not trying to be mean, the user makes mention in the profile of the young age of 18 (not sure if that's the current age) but either this is a complete bogus profile, or this person is in need of some serious help.
 

Magenta

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I suggest you look over this persons profile (which, btw, I shared a
screenshot in another thread of what is currently on the profile)
"I have somehow managed to acquire 18 children by the young age of 18!!"
 
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First of all, if a kid is over 5, he should have a job.
Second, after a long shift in the coal mine... he'll be way too tired to cause any trouble.



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He has wanted a "job" for a little while now :ROFL:
 
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I would suggest that you drop the "on again off again" relationship with the boyfriend (who is not the father) and focus on fixing the "on again off again" relationship with your husband ( and is husband even the father?)
You're running around the world splitting time between 2 men, and wondering why your child has behavior issues?
You are a big part of the problem.

And before anyone gasps over what I've said, I suggest you look over this persons profile (which, btw, I shared a screenshot in another thread of what is currently on the profile)

Not trying to be mean, the user makes mention in the profile of the young age of 18 (not sure if that's the current age) but either this is a complete bogus profile, or this person is in need of some serious help.

The implication I'm not a good mother due to my relationship issues is deeply offensive and incorrect!
Me and my husband have attempted to fix are relationship since we got married!!
 
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Hi and welcome to CC...
It's probably a bad idea to post your son's (very uncommon) first name here, as everything you post can be searched.

I would encourage you to read the book Boundaries with Children by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
Are you calling my child uncommon?
 

Karlon

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently. My boyfriend (who is not Homeric's father) has suggested I should hit/spank or otherwise physically punish my son.
Should I?
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
Although God speaks of the rod as punishment, it's not what I would choose. Words of wisdom in the name of chastisement are the way to go. I never had kids but I think hitting, even mildly, is not an everlasting teacher. kids who get hit might be what they do to their kids! Always ask the Holy Spirit what to say before admonishing kids.
 

MessengerofTruth

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I would suggest that you drop the "on again off again" relationship with the boyfriend (who is not the father) and focus on fixing the "on again off again" relationship with your husband ( and is husband even the father?)
You're running around the world splitting time between 2 men, and wondering why your child has behavior issues?
You are a big part of the problem.

And before anyone gasps over what I've said, I suggest you look over this persons profile (which, btw, I shared a screenshot in another thread of what is currently on the profile)

Not trying to be mean, the user makes mention in the profile of the young age of 18 (not sure if that's the current age) but either this is a complete bogus profile, or this person is in need of some serious help.
I agree, this person doesn't seem real...
 

MessengerofTruth

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My oldest boy Homeric has been acting up recently. My boyfriend (who is not Homeric's father) has suggested I should hit/spank or otherwise physically punish my son.
Should I?
I love my son so much but his behaviour has been reprehensible.
Let not fornication once be named among you...
 

Godsgirl1983

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The implication I'm not a good mother due to my relationship issues is deeply offensive and incorrect!
Me and my husband have attempted to fix are relationship since we got married!!
What is so incorrect about it?
You said so yourself in your own profile that you are on again off again with the husband, and on again off again with he boyfriend.
How is that fixing a relationship?
You have '18 children" watching you go from husband to boyfriend, and you don't think that is affecting them?

Your own words:

Screenshot 2023-03-09 10.25.18 AM.png

So, like I said either this is a completely bogus account or you are in need of some serious help.

There's a lot of people on this site that can help with advice, but I'm willing to bet most of them will tell you the same thing. Drop the boyfriend(s). You won't be able to fix your marriage (or set a good example for the children) as long as you have that going on.
 

KohenMatt

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Every child is different and responds to different kinds of discipline differently. I have 6 kids and don't believe there is a "one size fits all" method of discipline. The key is prayer and diligence in how to discipline each child.
 

Angela53510

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I have to agree something is not right with this person's profile.

A troll? Who knows! But not a Christian, if carrying on with a husband and a boyfriend. That's called adultery, which is breaking a very important biblical rule. "You shall not commit adultery!"

Did you miss memorizing the 10 commandments? You started here with a bait question, about corporal punishment. It was your boyfriend who suggested it! If you get rid of the boyfriend, then you don't have to even consider it!

I spanked my kids, over 40 years ago. I don't think I would today. But maybe that is because where I live, spanking is illegal.