Trust me, I would love nothing more than to agree with you about the whole reason for the digging of the well, because of what occurred there.
What occurred there shoots a HUGE HOLE in this whole teaching that women can not have authority over men.......so, yeah, I would love to agree with you.
However, as you are proposing things, it sounds just a wee bit too close to Calvins teachings, and I can not go along with Mr. Calvin.
As for Jesus being on a "short leash," that comes close to balsphamy. Why? Because Jesus IS GOD! There is no "leash" that can be placed on God. What Jesus did or did not do, He chose to or not do.
Anyway..............if y'all truly believe what you are stating (and I guess you do), then you must also believe that God "chose me" to offer a differing opinion on the whole discussion.