VIRTUAL DATE NIGHT

Gojira · Apr 22, 2022

Your misery does not make me feel better LOL

In fact, it's almost discouraging, since I see that it's not that uncommon for the Christian to experience this. If I was in the world, I'd probably not be alone. But, I am called to abandon that, regardless of how it feels right now.

But, going back to When Calls the Heart, the title alone should be a lesson for us all!

Live4Him2 · Apr 23, 2022

Gojira said:

I hear you, I truly, truly do, and I know that it's really not a joking matter.

Believe me, I've experienced the unwanted heartache of having a lot to give while being alone, but, at the same time, God's grace has always been sufficient for me.

Besides, the final chapter hasn't yet been written for either me or you.

Maybe there are women in our future.

Since somebody mentioned "Vegas" earlier, your odds are probably a lot better than mine of actually finding one.

If nothing else, I console myself in knowing that marriage is only for this side of eternity.

When all is said and done, the Christians will partake of the marriage supper of the Lamb as the bride of Christ, and natural marriage which, again, was ordained of God to foreshadow the same will cease to exist.

That said, I'd be lying if I was to say that I don't desire the companionship of a good woman in this life, but, again, it is what it is...no matter what my heart is calling out for.

Gojira · Apr 23, 2022

Live4Him2 said:

How so? Oh... you mean because of my glowing dorsal fin and hot, radioactive breath, not to mention chubby cheeks. Those things have caused a few women to swoon. But, that was long ago.

Live4Him2 · Apr 23, 2022

Gojira said:

If I could give you and everyone else who desires a spouse one piece of genuine advice, then it would simply be this:

Don't potentially be a stumbling block to God.

In other words, men, allow God to fashion you into someone who is truly going to love his wife as Christ loves his church while nourishing and cherishing her as your own flesh, and washing her with the water of the word.

Women, allow God to fashion into someone who will truly reverence your husband as the church reverences Christ (does it truly anymore?).

Again, like it or not, this is what God ordained marriage to be.

Why would he bring us a spouse if we're going to go against his very design and purpose for marriage?

Anyhow, that's NOT an accusation against anybody here, but just a piece of genuine advice.

Live4Him2 · Apr 23, 2022

Gojira said:

Hey, at least you're not being squashed by the hands of time as God's timeclock for humanity winds down.

Gojira · Apr 23, 2022

Live4Him2 said:

True.

Lanolin · Apr 23, 2022

Im a bit horrified about the fountain of blood gushing from your ex wife @Live4Him2

not sure what to say to that except your marriage certaintly wasnt boring. The getting married part is dead easy it would just be the STAYING married that is hard.

Live4Him2 · Apr 23, 2022

Lanolin said:

Hey...

I'm glad that you mentioned that because I forgot to mention that she was naked at the time.

Due to the excruciating pain that she was in, she was periodically sitting in the bathtub which was full of hot water while trying to get some relief.

As far as the fountain of blood is concerned, it literally was like a fountain. I didn't want to sound too gory earlier, but it literally splattered all over the bedspread, the carpet, and some even got on the wall. I know that sounds bizarre, but I witnessed it firsthand.

Anyhow, if nothing else, witchcraft is not something to be played around with.

Again, I'm sorry, to a very real extent, that this thread (even though it had been dead for a couple of years) got sidetracked somewhat by my involvement in it.

At the same time, however, tourist did tell me on another thread just yesterday that he was going to pray for my ex-wife.

I trust that he now has a bit better idea of what to actually pray for...assuming that he doesn't think that I'm nuts.

In either case, Jesus is Lord, and he knows that what I've testified of here is true.

Lanolin · Apr 23, 2022

well

Marriage can be a test or trial for some...a test of our faithfulness to God as well as spouse (who, can only be human, or in some cases fickle woman and womanising man) and if they choose to be unfaithful to you, you must still forgive them even if you dont stay married to them

For those of us who are unmarried, the trials and tribulations come in other forms, but I dont know if we have an easier or harder time of it, just different.

I think its easier in some ways for women remain unmarried and not burdened because with children thats a huge responsibilty, a mother never really forgets her children or can let go of them that easily though those that have still births or miscarriages and abortions tend to hide this but it takes its toll, not just bodily but emotionally

and if you a dad well the children of your marriage are YOURS in this life to care for and raise, so, abidcating that responsibility would makes men worse than infidels

so its probably not so much your ex spouse that why God wanted you to marry its because He wanted you to have children and we all actually learn MORE when we have children around (we just learn we dont know everything) that is what children can teach us. A lot of men actually dont care about children unless they are their own, while many women are not too concerned whos biological children it is, they see a need and will care for any child even if they dont have all the means to do so...if that makes sense

Lanolin · Apr 23, 2022

evil stepmothers not withstanding...though there are a stepdads as well.

Though cant say too much about that cos thats not how my own family worked. I think a lot of familes I know of have rather complicated relationships with half siblings and step parents etc that I never experienced.

if you add incest to mix that just makes things messy. But its probably more common than ppl realise. Though it wont be talked about...even though most molestation happens within families rather than outside of it

Gojira · Apr 23, 2022

Live4Him2 said:

Hey...

I'm glad that you mentioned that because I forgot to mention that she was naked at the time.

Due to the excruciating pain that she was in, she was periodically sitting in the bathtub which was full of hot water while trying to get some relief.

As far as the fountain of blood is concerned, it literally was like a fountain. I didn't want to sound too gory earlier, but it literally splattered all over the bedspread, the carpet, and some even got on the wall. I know that sounds bizarre, but I witnessed it firsthand.

Anyhow, if nothing else, witchcraft is not something to be played around with.

Again, I'm sorry, to a very real extent, that this thread (even though it had been dead for a couple of years) got sidetracked somewhat by my involvement in it.

At the same time, however, tourist did tell me on another thread just yesterday that he was going to pray for my ex-wife.

I trust that he now has a bit better idea of what to actually pray for...assuming that he doesn't think that I'm nuts.

In either case, Jesus is Lord, and he knows that what I've testified of here is true.

Not questioning you bro.

Gojira · Apr 23, 2022

tourist said:

VIRTURAL DATE NIGHT
CHRISTIAN CHAT ROMANTIC INVITATIONAL

Do you have that certain 'special one' prancing 'round your thoughts that resides in the CC Singles community? Now is your opportunity to invite this member for a virtual date, providing it’s consensual, and that the member is indeed single and not married. However, it may be acceptable to arrange a virtual double date night with a married couple. While we are all adults here there really is no need for an exhaustive list of do’s and don’ts but use your own discretion on the appropriate behavior that may or may occur.

Please be advised though that, like Vegas, what happens here stays here. Feel free to burst into song occasionally but try not to sing out of key. The guys may want to consider bringing a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates, preferably dark to set the mood and the tone for the evening.

NO RULES - JUST RIGHT

"Who knows how much further we'll go on?
Maybe I'll be sorry when you're gone.
I'll take my chances,
I forgot how nice romance is,
I haven't been there for the longest time."

So Tourist, any updates on your v-date thing?

tourist · Apr 23, 2022

Gojira said:

I started this thread at the time of CC when there was a lot of talk on online dating.

Unless there is a viable opportunity for an actual physical relationship online dating will eventually lead to someone being deleted.

I met both my late second wife online in an AOL Romance Christian Sngles chat room in 2002, and also JesusLives, who is a member of CC in 2014 a month after I joined. We started to respond to each others posts and it took off from there. There are other sucessfull CC romances also that lead to marriage.

Any updates to VIRTUAL DATE NIGHT would have to be provided by other members as I am a happily married man. I am just a facilitator in this venue. Of course, this thread has been inactive for over a year. I just provided a venue to such online interaction. It started out as a fun way for single CC members to interact with each other albeit in a pretend way. Sort of like taking the Ship It threads to another level.

Live4Him2 · Apr 23, 2022

Gojira said:

Actually, I wouldn't fault you if you did.

Normally, I stick to just sharing the word of God with people while leaving personal testimony out of it.

I think that a good scriptural rule of thumb is found here:

II Peter chapter 1

[16] For we have not followed cunningly devised fables, when we made known unto you the power and coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, but were eyewitnesses of his majesty.
[17] For he received from God the Father honour and glory, when there came such a voice to him from the excellent glory, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.
[18] And this voice which came from heaven we heard, when we were with him in the holy mount.
[19] We have also a more sure word of prophecy; whereunto ye do well that ye take heed, as unto a light that shineth in a dark place, until the day dawn, and the day star arise in your hearts:
[20] Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation.
[21] For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost.

While on the Mount of Transfiguration with Jesus, James, and John, Peter not only saw Jesus transfigured before his very eyes, but he also heard God's voice from out of heaven as a bright cloud overshadowed them. He also saw Moses and Elijah who appeared in glory as they spoke to Jesus of his death which he should accomplish at Jerusalem. In spite of everything that Peter both saw and heard, he said that "we have also a MORE SURE WORD OF PROPHECY whereunto we do well that we take heed". In other words, Peter's belief in Christ was first and foremost based upon what had been written in relation to him in the Holy Ghost inspired word of God. That took precedence over any supernatural vision or experience. Similarly, I believe that we should try everything that we see and hear in the light of scripture, and ultimately give scripture precedence in our own lives as well.

Anyhow, I had been involved in the deliverance ministry long before I ever met my ex or got married. The vast majority of other deliverances or healings were more "normal" in the sense that they had parallel experiences which are recorded in scripture. The reason why I mentioned this particular example with my ex was to let people know that she had experienced supernatural healings and deliverances quite a number of times, and had also been used by the Lord at times to minister the same to others. And, of course, to ultimately give praise unto God who is still very much involved in the healing and delivering of those who call upon his name.

Well, I've said more than enough here.

It's time for me to vacate this particular thread unless someone comments on something that I said here which warrants a response.

Have a blessed day.

tourist · Apr 24, 2022

Live4Him2 said:

If I could give you and everyone else who desires a spouse one piece of genuine advice, then it would simply be this:

Don't potentially be a stumbling block to God.

In other words, men, allow God to fashion you into someone who is truly going to love his wife as Christ loves his church while nourishing and cherishing her as your own flesh, and washing her with the water of the word.

Women, allow God to fashion into someone who will truly reverence your husband as the church reverences Christ (does it truly anymore?).

Again, like it or not, this is what God ordained marriage to be.

Why would he bring us a spouse if we're going to go against his very design and purpose for marriage?

Anyhow, that's NOT an accusation against anybody here, but just a piece of genuine advice.

You provided sound spiritual counsel.

tourist · Apr 24, 2022

Lanolin said:

From my own experience and observation I would say that marriage is both a test and a trial.

Gojira · Apr 24, 2022

tourist said:

I started this thread at the time of CC when there was a lot of talk on online dating.

Unless there is a viable opportunity for an actual physical relationship online dating will eventually lead to someone being deleted.

I met both my late second wife online in an AOL Romance Christian Sngles chat room in 2002, and also JesusLives, who is a member of CC in 2014 a month after I joined. We started to respond to each others posts and it took off from there. There are other sucessfull CC romances also that lead to marriage.

Any updates to VIRTUAL DATE NIGHT would have to be provided by other members as I am a happily married man. I am just a facilitator in this venue. Of course, this thread has been inactive for over a year. I just provided a venue to such online interaction. It started out as a fun way for single CC members to interact with each other albeit in a pretend way. Sort of like taking the Ship It threads to another level.

Have a burden for singles do you?

Gojira · Apr 24, 2022

Live4Him2 said:

If I could give you and everyone else who desires a spouse one piece of genuine advice, then it would simply be this:

Don't potentially be a stumbling block to God.

In other words, men, allow God to fashion you into someone who is truly going to love his wife as Christ loves his church while nourishing and cherishing her as your own flesh, and washing her with the water of the word.

Women, allow God to fashion into someone who will truly reverence your husband as the church reverences Christ (does it truly anymore?).

Again, like it or not, this is what God ordained marriage to be.

Why would he bring us a spouse if we're going to go against his very design and purpose for marriage?

Anyhow, that's NOT an accusation against anybody here, but just a piece of genuine advice.

I dunno... I'm pretty perfect as it is. Which, of course, I admit with all due humility.

Man... I just can't get over how humble I am... *pats self on back with a self-satisfied smile*

tourist · Apr 24, 2022

Gojira said:

No, not really but I do seem to have a burden for those that are lonely but act tentatively in getting an enduring relationship in motion.

I believe the two main causes of being tentative is fear of rejection and fear of commitment. The game of love is not for the overly timid or faint of heart.

Beginning a relationship is a calculated risk. Eventually, you have to let the dice fly and see how they roll. Either that, or consign yourself to being alone the rest of your life.

However, despite this, I would not counsel anyone to seek their happiness in marriage for being married is a lot of hard work with many trials and potential heartbreak.

Having been single a good part of my adult life I can say that being single is easy and carefree compared to the pressure of being a good husband or wife. The thing for me is, single life lacked satisfaction of a job well done.

Live4Him2 · Apr 24, 2022

Gojira said:

I get that you're joking, and, believe it or not, I have a pretty decent sense of humor myself.

That said, I trust that both you and I know that this really isn't a joking matter.

Again, I understand your heartache, my own heartache, and the heartaches of countless others in relation to this particular topic (and others as well), and it's nothing to laugh about.

We truly do need to understand that, as Jesus himself taught, there is no marriage apart from the marriage of the Lamb and his bride on the other side of eternity.

In other words, God ordained marriage on this side of eternity for a particular purpose, and, again, that purpose is to mirror the spiritual union between Christ and his church.

It's imperative that we not only come to this understanding, but that we are also willing to do our parts, by the grace of God, to fulfill this Divine purpose or else we can forget about God working on our behalves to bring us into marital relationships. Quite frankly, I wouldn't fault God at all if he actually fought against us if we're not willing to do things his way and for his purposes.

Hopefully, everybody here understands what I'm saying.

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