Your post didn't upset me, but it DID seem to delve into some very personal realms and seemed to assume an awful lot about me. Let's take a look at the original post you wrote that I responded to eariler and break it down.
1. You wrote: "You dated them... but didn't marry them."
You assumed I didn't marry them (which I addressed in my answer, as I did marry, and he left for someone else.)
2. You wrote: "With these fellows... did you decide to one day drop them?"
This makes it sound like I apparently just casually date guys and drop them on a whim, depending on how I feel on any given day (which again, I addressed in my answer -- I am someone who has only been in long-term relationships or on first dates because I felt there was no chemistry, and I didn't want to waste anyone's time.)
3. You wrote: "With these fellows (kind of makes is sound like there were tons of them - I can assure you that there were not,) what were some of the reasons? Any chance it was status, even if it was subconscious?"
Not only does it seem that you are asking that I somehow have to justify why I would break up with someone, but it also makes seems to imply, "Oh, c'mon Seoul, ARE YOU SURE you didn't break up with them because they didn't have enough money or status to boost your social position? ARE YOU SURE??! Not even on the subconscious level? Hmm?? Hmm??"
In your reply to Lynx, you said that you thought you were "asking a rather Seoulsearch question."
I can tell you that what you asked would not be a "rather Seoulsearch-type question," BUT, I can give an example of what would be.
My approach is to break down your post (which assumes the stereotype that women choose men based on money and status,) flip it around, and ask you the same things centered around the male version of this stereotype -- that men are only out for women they find the most absolutely beautiful and for sex.
So, breaking down your original post again, let's tailor your questions to "the male" side of the coin:
1. These women, "You dated them... but you didn't marry them?"
2. "With these (women)... did you decide to one day drop them? Or did they end it (or maybe they just stop contacting you?"
3. "If you were the one to end it, what were some of the reasons? Any chance it was (because of they weren't beautiful enough to you or had enough sex appeal for you) even if it was subconscious?"
It is also a very Seoulsearch-ian thing to look forward to hearing your answers because I thoroughly answered your questions and feel it's only fair that the other person would be allowed the opportunity to do the same.
I'll be watching for your post -- thanks for taking the time.
P.S. Yes, I know my posts are long and not for the faint of heart. They're for a specific type of poster, though all are welcome to answer, and many just read and answer the title question without reading the background behind it.
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