Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

[Encouragement]

A righteous female is a saved sinner...A righteous man is a saved sinner.
A 'righteous'female is made righteous because of what christ has done for her..nothing she has actually done within herself to make that happen.
However despite being saved and being a child of God.Her God given femininity doesn't change.When you have a relationship with a female never make the mistake of assuming or presuming about her without knowing
about her.Other than the fact that she is Gods child shes STILL female and that will never change.The nature of christ get's developed over many years withing her...being interwoven with her femininity,personality ect.
1)she will have a past that may/may not have some kinda impact on her even now.
2)She may have hurts from the past in one way or another
3)She will have her own social network,best friends..even friends who have hurt her in the past
4)She will have her monthly cycle which will often be unpleasant for her will affect her emotionally even mentally for its duration
5)He will gave her own points of view about God,jesus,life, ect...which will not always be the same as yours and she will have her own deep convictions that you may not agree with
6)She will have her own perspective on what a man should be which has been formed from what life has shown her,what she has heard preached as will as whats happened in her past..( childhood,homelife,school life ect)
7)She will have her own way of dealing with the pressures of life and just because you are in her life she won't change them.
8)She will have her own personal vulnerabilities to a variety of things and may still be trying yo overcome them
9)She will have her limits or levels of tolerance and becoming tearful/fatigued/needing her own space can manifest.
10)Her age,looks,being able to be herself can play a part regarding her self esteem pending on her life experiences
11)She has her own inner strength and will tell you off if she feels you are in the wrong
12)It will be important for her to be listened to and understood
13)She will need to 'feel' valued nkt just be told she is..Sometimes words aren't enough
14)There maybe times she is unwell medically,
15) She will have her good days and bad days
16)She will have her own ambitions of career,when to have kids ect

There are somethings that will affect women much much older which I haven't added.

Need I go on.....This is the reality of having a real relationship with a female whi is a Christian.It's REAL'..Not some dreamlike bubble you have created in your mind and seem to relish in..
I haven't even mentioned about the fact that dating involves money,time,effort,Changing ones lifestyle to a accomodate them.. being flexible at times..and so much more

@Kauko Read this..

 

[cinder]

Of course, if one is married to the wrong person, it will probably become an hell worse than singledom.

This is why I want a special girl.

And this is why we say over and over again, she does not want you. She's better off single for the time being. Because if you got married now you would be the wrong person. As someone once said " Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results." The only certainty in your situation is: nothing is going to change until you do.

 

[Lynx]

Marriage in itself is not hard or easy, it is just a life stage.

I can sure tell YOU'VE never been married.

 

[tourist]

I will have to accept on the other hand that in some aspects, singledom is better than marriage, especially when it comes to freedom. However, it should be also known that freedom alone can NOT make a person happy. When you have too much of it, life just becomes very predictable and as such, it becomes boring. There are things you need more than freedom to be satisfied with life.

But anyway, I would still say that the ups of married life outnumber the ups of single life. Also, the statement that "marriage is hard" is very skewed. Marriage in itself is not hard or easy, it is just a life stage. What makes it more or less difficult and stressful are the own spouses. Most of the problems dont simply appear, but are created by either one or both of the parties. The reason most married people are unsatisfied with their marriages, is because in all of them there is atleast one spouse who is not material for a marriage.

I would not say that most married people are unsatisfied with their marriages.

From experience I would say that what makes marriage difficult and stressful is that it is a tremendous responsibility. I would not classify marriage as a life stage either because it does not come natural but rather marriage is a choice. Paul, in the bible strongly implied that marriage can be very hard..

Having been married I can also add that marriage can also be very rewarding. Honestly, I would never tell anyone that marriage will bring them happiness, however you may have your share of happy days. And sad days. And hard days.

 

[tourist]

I don't agree with you thinking you have a platform to speak from about the subject in general.

When you go through a hellish marriage yourself, then come back and preach about it.

We both speak from experience.

 

[tourist]

Of course, if one is married to the wrong person, it will probably become an hell worse than singledom.

I agree with this 100%.

 

[Godsgirl83]

The problem is that even if I changed, I would likely still be struggling with loneliness !

Okay, see now maybe this knotted up ball of yarn is starting to untangle.

even the most seemingly perfect christian mate can not and will be able to change this.
Loneliness can and at times often does happen in relationships, even with the "perfect one"..................
and even if you had this dream relationship you would be right back here with another thread telling us about how lonely you are, and how she doesn't fulfill that area of your life.

Go check out the other forums, there's one (or maybe 2) that discuss this exact thing....
loneliness in singlehood vs. loneliness in realtionships.

 

[Godsgirl83]

WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN I SUCCESSFULLY CHANGE ???

Possibility 1) You get your life cleaned up, get focused on the Lord and wake up one day realizing that this is no longer consuming you........

Possibility 2) You successfully change, but the stench of DESPERATION remains.

 

[Kauko]

1)she will have a past that may/may not have some kinda impact on her even now.

What do you mean with this ?

3)She will have her own social network,best friends..even friends who have hurt her in the past

I dont want her to have social media.

And I prefer her not to have many friends. The more the friends she has the higher the chance she will cheat.

4)She will have her monthly cycle which will often be unpleasant for her will affect her emotionally even mentally for its duration

She should try to exercise self control.

5)He will gave her own points of view about God,jesus,life, ect...which will not always be the same as yours and she will have her own deep convictions that you may not agree with

It depends. If her beliefs are a complete manipulation of the Bible goodbye. And especially, if she uses the "help and love the needy" part as an excuse to help and be around immigrants goodbye and get lost.

6)She will have her own perspective on what a man should be which has been formed from what life has shown her,what she has heard preached as will as whats happened in her past..( childhood,homelife,school life ect)

As long as she lets the man have authority over her.

7)She will have her own way of dealing with the pressures of life and just because you are in her life she won't change them.

If her way of dealing with the pressures of life is screaming all the time for the minimum flaw, no thanks.

8)She will have her own personal vulnerabilities to a variety of things and may still be trying yo overcome them

Also depends. If she watches porn sorry but goodbye.

9)She will have her limits or levels of tolerance and becoming tearful/fatigued/needing her own space can manifest.

But she should stay with me.

11)She has her own inner strength and will tell you off if she feels you are in the wrong

In what cases for example ?

 

[Kauko]

Okay, see now maybe this knotted up ball of yarn is starting to untangle.

even the most seemingly perfect christian mate can not and will be able to change this.
Loneliness can and at times often does happen in relationships, even with the "perfect one"..................
and even if you had this dream relationship you would be right back here with another thread telling us about how lonely you are, and how she doesn't fulfill that area of your life.

Go check out the other forums, there's one (or maybe 2) that discuss this exact thing....
loneliness in singlehood vs. loneliness in realtionships.

Its very unlikely since she will not work outside home and will not go outdoors too much, as I want an introvert. Therefore, she will stay home most of the time and I will almost never be alone after work.

 

[Kauko]

Possibility 1) You get your life cleaned up, get focused on the Lord and wake up one day realizing that this is no longer consuming you........

Possibility 2) You successfully change, but the stench of DESPERATION remains.

Between both, possibility 2 is a certainty.

 

[Kauko]

Loneliness can and at times often does happen in relationships, even with the "perfect one"..................

And if you are talking about long distance relationships then yes, that is another story. But I will never have such a kind of relationship. 99% of people in ldr cheat.

But since I want an introvert housewife, there is little I will have to worry about being lonely.

 

[seoulsearch]

Its very unlikely since she will not work outside home and will not go outdoors too much, as I want an introvert. Therefore, she will stay home most of the time and I will almost never be alone after work.

You, you, you.

Yes.

The whole world 🌍 does indeed revolve around you. 🙄

 

[cinder]

What do you mean with this ?

I dont want her to have social media.

And I prefer her not to have many friends. The more the friends she has the higher the chance she will cheat.

If she uses the "help and love the needy" part as an excuse to help and be around immigrants goodbye and get lost.

As long as she lets the man have authority over her.

Also depends. If she watches porn sorry but goodbye.

But she should stay with me.

If you ever hear anyone talking about toxic masculinity, this is what they're talking about.

Also, the Bible commands us to help the foreigner and needy. So it sounds like if she is Christian enough to fully obey the Bible then you don't want her. And from experience, even being a high status foreigner in a country is challenging; it's much worse when you are a low status foreigner as many immigrants to Western nations are.

And didn't you mention earlier that you watch porn. Is that one of those things that it's ok for you to do but you won't tolerate her doing? Kind of like having a job and friends are things you can do but don't want her to do?

 

[Godsgirl83]

Its very unlikely since she will not work outside home and will not go outdoors too much, as I want an introvert. Therefore, she will stay home most of the time and I will almost never be alone after work.

LIFE EXPERIENCE (that of my own and that of which I have observed from others) makes me want to @ this.

HOWEVER,

the OP's complete lack of understanding, display of living in fantasy la-la land, is no laughing matter, leaving me ready to


@Kauko ,

please try to understand this:
you can be in a room full of friends and loved ones and STILL BE LONELY......
a g/f or wife IS NOT going to fix that loneliness.

 

[Kauko]

Also, the Bible commands us to help the foreigner and needy. So it sounds like if she is Christian enough to fully obey the Bible then you don't want her.

I never found any Bible verse stating "help the foreigner". I heard various times "help the needy" but the term needy addresses anyone who is in need, not specifically immigrants. Also, its not the number 1 rule either.

And from experience, even being a high status foreigner in a country is challenging; it's much worse when you are a low status foreigner as many immigrants to Western nations are.

The mere fact of being a person in a country is challenging. Even for a native.

And didn't you mention earlier that you watch porn.

No, I dont watch it. I dont even remember the last time I clicked in an adult page. It was pleeeenty of years ago. I dont even know the year. I was far younger.

Is that one of those things that it's ok for you to do but you won't tolerate her doing?

Of course not.

Kind of like having a job and friends are things you can do but don't want her to do?

Somebody should have a job. And given the man is naturally more prepared for this, I will be the one.

And when I said I have many friends?

 

[Ruby123]

You might have to join the Amish people. Are there any in Finland?

 

[Kauko]

please try to understand this:
you can be in a room full of friends and loved ones and STILL BE LONELY......
a g/f or wife IS NOT going to fix that loneliness.

This is the farthest a girl my type could be from me:

In bed relaxing. And whenever I see her there, I just lie with her. Problem solved !

 

[Godsgirl83]

In bed relaxing. And whenever I see her there, I will just lie with her. Problem solved !

 

[Kauko]

You might have to join the Amish people. Are there any in Finland?

I dont think they would accept me into their community.