Singleness: Blessing or curse?
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I am single. And since I asked the question I should respond to my question too.
I view my singleness as a blessing, but I also desire to be married. That may sound cliché, but I have been walking with Christ for over 33 years, and I have experienced His blessings revealed to me in various ways through different seasons of my life. God is good all the time, therefore I am eager to recognize His blessings as I live my life...but I do desire to be married if His plan allows for that.
I view my singleness as a blessing, but I also desire to be married. That may sound cliché, but I have been walking with Christ for over 33 years, and I have experienced His blessings revealed to me in various ways through different seasons of my life. God is good all the time, therefore I am eager to recognize His blessings as I live my life...but I do desire to be married if His plan allows for that.
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I'm not your typical "single" in that my ex-wife of 18 years basically sought to destroy me for about 16 of those years and ultimately cheated on me repeatedly before divorcing me. Worse still, having read the Bible a multitude of times for more than 32 years now, and having read books and articles galore on the topic, I'm still unsure if I can ever get married again in God's sight while my ex is still alive (and I wish her a long life).
Is my "singleness" then a blessing or a curse?
I'd just say that it's confusing and heartbreaking to a fairly large degree.
I say that because I've genuinely sought the God who is love for more than 32 years now, and I am a very loving individual (when I'm not beheading heretics in the BDF...lol). I also believe, unashamedly, that women are the most beautiful part of God's creation (he saved the best for last), and I don't just mean that in an outward or lustful way. Granted, a virtuous woman is hard to find, but I honestly don't know if I can ever even date again in God's sight, and I do miss doing the simple things in life together with a woman.
In summary, I wouldn't say that I'm cursed, but, again, I am confused and somewhat saddened...especially when I consider that marriage is only for this side of eternity. Although I'm sure that what awaits in the world to come is much more glorious than anything that exists in this present fallen and evil world, I'd be lying if I were to say that I wouldn't like to spend time with a woman in this life...even if only holding hands and doing something together. That is what I miss the most.
Well, just my two cents worth.
I'm not your typical "single" in that my ex-wife of 18 years basically sought to destroy me for about 16 of those years and ultimately cheated on me repeatedly before divorcing me. Worse still, having read the Bible a multitude of times for more than 32 years now, and having read books and articles galore on the topic, I'm still unsure if I can ever get married again in God's sight while my ex is still alive (and I wish her a long life).
Is my "singleness" then a blessing or a curse?
I'd just say that it's confusing and heartbreaking to a fairly large degree.
I say that because I've genuinely sought the God who is love for more than 32 years now, and I am a very loving individual (when I'm not beheading heretics in the BDF...lol). I also believe, unashamedly, that women are the most beautiful part of God's creation (he saved the best for last), and I don't just mean that in an outward or lustful way. Granted, a virtuous woman is hard to find, but I honestly don't know if I can ever even date again in God's sight, and I do miss doing the simple things in life together with a woman.
In summary, I wouldn't say that I'm cursed, but, again, I am confused and somewhat saddened...especially when I consider that marriage is only for this side of eternity. Although I'm sure that what awaits in the world to come is much more glorious than anything that exists in this present fallen and evil world, I'd be lying if I were to say that I wouldn't like to spend time with a woman in this life...even if only holding hands and doing something together. That is what I miss the most.
Well, just my two cents worth.
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Blessing, why would it be a curse?!
Canaan was cursed
basically cos he saw his mum and dad naked together and told everyone about it.
adam and eve were cursed cos the saw each other naked.
yes there is a lot of nudity and porn in the Bible. Hide your eyes. Anytime anyone did that, well they got cursed. And a lot of the time people married when God told them not to, and they married the WRONG partner who worshipped other gods, things did not go well for them.
Canaan was cursed
basically cos he saw his mum and dad naked together and told everyone about it.
adam and eve were cursed cos the saw each other naked.
yes there is a lot of nudity and porn in the Bible. Hide your eyes. Anytime anyone did that, well they got cursed. And a lot of the time people married when God told them not to, and they married the WRONG partner who worshipped other gods, things did not go well for them.
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When u hope for love and want to progress in life, being single seems empty. One u experienced relationship pain, u are glad to be free. My issue is with the media. Marriage is portrayed as a holiday. I'd suggest that you see it as a hike up a mountain. Pick the partner for the journey. Marriage is not the destination. That covers the spiritual and worldly life.
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I do (and I'm about to fully employ this in my own life), but I offer it with some confusion:
By the grace of God, die completely to yourself, and live for him (my username).
The reason that I offer this advice with some confusion is because I know that by allowing God to tear me apart and remake me for the last 32 1/2 years, he gave me this capacity to love so deeply, so I kind of feel like I need to die not only to myself, but to this desire for a godly type of love as well.
Believe me, if I ever told my full story here, then what I just said would make a lot more sense.
Anyhow, I'm not looking for sympathy, but if anybody wants to pray for me for godly wisdom and understanding, then I would certainly appreciate it.
Thanks.
By the grace of God, die completely to yourself, and live for him (my username).
The reason that I offer this advice with some confusion is because I know that by allowing God to tear me apart and remake me for the last 32 1/2 years, he gave me this capacity to love so deeply, so I kind of feel like I need to die not only to myself, but to this desire for a godly type of love as well.
Believe me, if I ever told my full story here, then what I just said would make a lot more sense.
Anyhow, I'm not looking for sympathy, but if anybody wants to pray for me for godly wisdom and understanding, then I would certainly appreciate it.
Thanks.
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Lol I guess this will be my 3rd time speaking about this... I am sorry to whoever will going to read this...I just want to share the goodness of the Lord Jesus because i know that whether people will be honest or not with their sexual struggles I know that many christian brothers and sisters(single or married) right now are hooked with pornography and masturbation. The good news here is if God sets me free HE surely can set you free as well 😇
My experience of being single(not married) for so long I would say that it was really hard and it was a painful journey I considered it a curse because i struggled with high sexual drive, and at the same time my desire to not sleep with a man until marriage...
I had an early exposure to porn video when I was a teenager when my bestfriend invited me to sleep over at their house. That video poisoned my mind...I was not a rebellious teenager so I think it saved me also to try to sleep around...I was actually scared to do that because though I was looking on porn and masturbating I still believe at a very young age to wait till marriage I relied on porn and masturbation ..but it only resulted to something worst like being hooked to porn..thankful I have a God who loves me,forgives me and teaches me. HE helped me to win my battle over lust 😇
Whether I'll be married someday or not, I thank the Lord 🙏 Both are gifts .
Singleness is a great opportunity to enjoy it and to focus in serving the Lord Jesus. 😇
My experience of being single(not married) for so long I would say that it was really hard and it was a painful journey I considered it a curse because i struggled with high sexual drive, and at the same time my desire to not sleep with a man until marriage...
I had an early exposure to porn video when I was a teenager when my bestfriend invited me to sleep over at their house. That video poisoned my mind...I was not a rebellious teenager so I think it saved me also to try to sleep around...I was actually scared to do that because though I was looking on porn and masturbating I still believe at a very young age to wait till marriage I relied on porn and masturbation ..but it only resulted to something worst like being hooked to porn..thankful I have a God who loves me,forgives me and teaches me. HE helped me to win my battle over lust 😇
Whether I'll be married someday or not, I thank the Lord 🙏 Both are gifts .
Singleness is a great opportunity to enjoy it and to focus in serving the Lord Jesus. 😇
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