There are ways of misreading scripture to let homosexual people in but the correct way of reading scripture DOES let women teach in the church. If that was not so then Phoebe would not be praised by Paul for her leadership, and Priscilla for being a missionary. You are listening to the letter of the law and turning a blind eye to the heart and truth. God lets women give when needed, have you read the book of Judges?
Phoebe a female wasn't a Deacon in the Church, that would be your adding to the scripture.
God's words and instruction are very clear.
A Pastor/Bishop/Deacon is to be a man and the (Husband) of one wife, women are excluded from these offices.
1 Timothy 3:1-13 King James Version (KJV)
3 This is a true saying, if
a man desire the office of a bishop,
he desireth a good work.
2
A bishop then must be blameless,
the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5 (For if
a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall
he take care of the church of God?)
6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride
he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7 Moreover
he must have a good report of them which are without; lest
he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
8 Likewise must
the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;
9 Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.
10 And let these also first be proved; then let them use
the office of a deacon, being found blameless.
11 Even so must
their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
12
Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
13 For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.