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Looking back in life, and when my kids are old enough to understand and be in these situations.........
right now as i think about this all that is coming to me is to use discretion when revealing past hurts and pains or things about your life that make you vulnerable. This is to avoid having someone ( who perhaps doesn't have the best intentions) know these weaknesses and somehow use them against you.
right now as i think about this all that is coming to me is to use discretion when revealing past hurts and pains or things about your life that make you vulnerable. This is to avoid having someone ( who perhaps doesn't have the best intentions) know these weaknesses and somehow use them against you.
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I, personally, do not date. May I ask you to define what you mean by "romantically dating?" That phrase probably means very different things to certain people.
Let's say, for example, that you mean kissing, a term which also can have very different meanings. Not dating obviously guards me from getting to this point with someone. Among many other reasons, I wouldn't want to disrespect the potential wife of another man by kissing his future bride "romantically."
Let's say, for example, that you mean kissing, a term which also can have very different meanings. Not dating obviously guards me from getting to this point with someone. Among many other reasons, I wouldn't want to disrespect the potential wife of another man by kissing his future bride "romantically."
unfortunately in my experience , narcissism is alive and well , so I wouldn't be sharing much at all about my private life, my passions etc, these people will one day use that information against you. Make sure you know the person your dating very well, and follow your instincts, you will know if they are ok or not. This is something that has taken me a long time to learn. MGTOW for me now
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I can't say I really date, but I can say that one of the things I have found useful is to ride out the first rush of excitement of new, interesting person where it's so easy to make assumptions based on too little info. And to realize that a relationship and knowing a person will take time and seeing them in a bunch of different seasons in life. And until that time has been invested to not make too many long term plans or ridiculous declarations about how much I need or can't / don't want to live without the other person. Seems to have done a fairly good job of guarding my heart, but not a very good job of getting me any dates.
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The care and feeding of the heart 101
Be careful where you leave it. When you are lonely it is tempting to put it on the free table in your apartment lobby (Just run with the image for a moment) to see if anyone will pick it up. You need to value it more than that.
Don't hand it off to anyone who looks at it sideways. We spend more time investigating restaurant reviews that potential dates.
Ask questions and really listen to the answers. Sometimes we really want something to work and we ignore what others are telling us and even what they are saying. I had a friend who really liked this guy at her church. He told her he was never marrying again. She ignored that thinking she could change his mind. After several months she ended up sad and rather single.
Don't jump ahead. There are a lot of jokes about women having full relationships with guys before they make it across the room to talk to them. The fellow says hi and the woman has already planned their summer schedule. Yes it is just humour but it is easy to analyze something to death before it starts.
Spend some time together and see them as a person. So many people get it backwards. They try and decide if there is a future before they know them. Do not hand your heart to someone you do not really know. If you do jump to "I love you" too quickly, it tells them is that you don't really care who they are, you are just looking for someone to fill a role, a void in your life.
That one goes both ways. If a fellow buys you a ring before you have even said you love them, that is a warning flag.
Don't give your heart away too soon and don't let them declare intentions if you don't believe that they see you.
Be wise. That one is hard when you are lonely and you just want to believe that he is the right one. Love yourself enough to be wise.
It is easy for people to say the right things, so take your time. You are worth it.
Be careful where you leave it. When you are lonely it is tempting to put it on the free table in your apartment lobby (Just run with the image for a moment) to see if anyone will pick it up. You need to value it more than that.
Don't hand it off to anyone who looks at it sideways. We spend more time investigating restaurant reviews that potential dates.
Ask questions and really listen to the answers. Sometimes we really want something to work and we ignore what others are telling us and even what they are saying. I had a friend who really liked this guy at her church. He told her he was never marrying again. She ignored that thinking she could change his mind. After several months she ended up sad and rather single.
Don't jump ahead. There are a lot of jokes about women having full relationships with guys before they make it across the room to talk to them. The fellow says hi and the woman has already planned their summer schedule. Yes it is just humour but it is easy to analyze something to death before it starts.
Spend some time together and see them as a person. So many people get it backwards. They try and decide if there is a future before they know them. Do not hand your heart to someone you do not really know. If you do jump to "I love you" too quickly, it tells them is that you don't really care who they are, you are just looking for someone to fill a role, a void in your life.
That one goes both ways. If a fellow buys you a ring before you have even said you love them, that is a warning flag.
Don't give your heart away too soon and don't let them declare intentions if you don't believe that they see you.
Be wise. That one is hard when you are lonely and you just want to believe that he is the right one. Love yourself enough to be wise.
It is easy for people to say the right things, so take your time. You are worth it.
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Above all else... protecting our souls. This takes great focus but so worth it eternally speaking.
Proverbs 4:23-27 New International Version (NIV)
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the[a] paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.
Proverbs 4:23-27 New International Version (NIV)
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the[a] paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.
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