Benefit of the doubt, How have you experience people who you know have not been touched by depression/trauma yet they tell people hey look at this person worse than you, pull yourself together.
You may have experienced this from someone but even so does a person have to be experienced with depression or panic/trauma to say to hey get up others have it worse it will be ok.
There are two different issues here. Someone suffering from depression is not caused by a single issue,
it is a whole person reaction to life. The important thing is accepting and getting to know them where
they are, and then going forward from this position.
Saying that others are in a worse position, so ones reaction to life is wrong does not work.
You do not know what they have been through or why they are where they are, and for some
though they look whole on the outside are deeply troubled on the inside.
Let me take a few simple things. Abuse sexually, physical abuse, traumatic separation from
friends, watching someone die in front of you, continual being run down and rejected,
physical disability, perception disability, suffering from a disorder in the brain that causes
emotional reactions and understanding that is different to average people.
What you see as an unhappy soul, maybe a statement of great victory and success, and that which
is seen as not dealing well is actually a triumph. There was a young man who had constant electrical
storms in their brain, which had many side effects. After many years of determination, they managed
to appear normal, not that bright and a bit slow, but normal. A doctor looked at them and realised to
actually appear like this was a miracle, and brilliant.
So this is why caution is needed, because there are triggers and issues one does not want to set off.
Patience, time, listening, protection work. When one earns the right and trust one can share.
And some disorders as so unusual, what is rude behaviour to another person is the only way to react
to some inappropriate social interactions. But you need to know how to play it, and once you do it
can do very well, within constraints. God bless you