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Hi just sounding off. Lol
I’m single always have been.
I go to work mix with single and married men and women without any problems. I get to know them they get to know me. We spend several hours each day together.
We all chat, discuss, laugh etc and generally get on. All of which is condusive to good business and good relations at work, etc etc Sometimes I’ve even had life’s home from work by male colleagues, especially in awful weather conditions. Or in emergencies when my aunt has been unwell.
There are no rules at work how single people of one sex cannot chat to married people of the opposite sex, that would be totally impractical and hinder the work place.
Everyone goes home after working and mingling together. We all cooperate together, moan together, sort out challenges together, work hard to meet deadlines together. We even have one-to-one meetings with no one else present to discuss work related issues. It’s all considered normal, plus I’m the only Christian at work and it’s all perfectly acceptable, above board and normal.
At church in the other hand. God forbid that a single woman (unless she is over 80) talks one-on-one with a male pastor regardless of if they are single or married. God forbid that a single woman meets with a male married church leader to discus church matters or that she receives counselling or pastoral care from a man at all, unless someone else is present in the room. God forbid that a single woman speaks to a married pastor, leader, etc even just to say hi unless they are surrounded by crowds of people!
Are all Christian pastors and leaders so insecure in their marriage or insecure about themselves!
Can you imagine the work place if men were not able to speak to women. If a man and a woman could not discuss business matters without the entire office being present!
Or can you imagine if a male doctor refused to see female patients for a 10 minute consultation without a chaperone present - even if no examination was necessary. It would double the staff and payroll bill.
Or how about if a male teacher could not tell off a female student or warn her about her behaviour and grades, unless another staff member was present.
In fact imagine society full stop, where men could not speak to single women at all without others present. How would you go to the dentist, get your car fixed, arrange for a plumber to fix something in the house etc etc. Or arrange for an extension to be built, the house redecorated as a single woman (bearing in mind most of these jobs are male dominated).
Or how about seeing a male psychologist, a male vet with your dog. Would it ever be possible to have female astronaughts if everyone else on the international space station was a man!
I was reading an article the other day about how Billy Graham never spoke privately to a woman married or single, on his own. But the article was saying that leaders and pastors have a responsibility to both genders. They cannot ignore an entire gender in their church.
More often than not, women get passed to the pastor’s wife or the wife of another leader, who has no theological degree, no counselling training, no experience of running a church. While the men in the church are pastored and counselled by fully trained pastors.
Imagine if a man had a problem and he went for counselling but was told I can’t speak to you unless you let someone else listen in. As a man would you go for counselling if someone else was in the room. Yet women are expected to do that. Or imagine if a man wanted to discuss and arrange the funeral of someone at a sensitive time and speak privately to a pastor. But the pastor said I will be bringing someone else with me as well. Just a few examples!
Are male born again Christians in leadership, that insecure.
Anyway I just wanted to let off steam. Lol.
I’m single always have been.
I go to work mix with single and married men and women without any problems. I get to know them they get to know me. We spend several hours each day together.
We all chat, discuss, laugh etc and generally get on. All of which is condusive to good business and good relations at work, etc etc Sometimes I’ve even had life’s home from work by male colleagues, especially in awful weather conditions. Or in emergencies when my aunt has been unwell.
There are no rules at work how single people of one sex cannot chat to married people of the opposite sex, that would be totally impractical and hinder the work place.
Everyone goes home after working and mingling together. We all cooperate together, moan together, sort out challenges together, work hard to meet deadlines together. We even have one-to-one meetings with no one else present to discuss work related issues. It’s all considered normal, plus I’m the only Christian at work and it’s all perfectly acceptable, above board and normal.
At church in the other hand. God forbid that a single woman (unless she is over 80) talks one-on-one with a male pastor regardless of if they are single or married. God forbid that a single woman meets with a male married church leader to discus church matters or that she receives counselling or pastoral care from a man at all, unless someone else is present in the room. God forbid that a single woman speaks to a married pastor, leader, etc even just to say hi unless they are surrounded by crowds of people!
Are all Christian pastors and leaders so insecure in their marriage or insecure about themselves!
Can you imagine the work place if men were not able to speak to women. If a man and a woman could not discuss business matters without the entire office being present!
Or can you imagine if a male doctor refused to see female patients for a 10 minute consultation without a chaperone present - even if no examination was necessary. It would double the staff and payroll bill.
Or how about if a male teacher could not tell off a female student or warn her about her behaviour and grades, unless another staff member was present.
In fact imagine society full stop, where men could not speak to single women at all without others present. How would you go to the dentist, get your car fixed, arrange for a plumber to fix something in the house etc etc. Or arrange for an extension to be built, the house redecorated as a single woman (bearing in mind most of these jobs are male dominated).
Or how about seeing a male psychologist, a male vet with your dog. Would it ever be possible to have female astronaughts if everyone else on the international space station was a man!
I was reading an article the other day about how Billy Graham never spoke privately to a woman married or single, on his own. But the article was saying that leaders and pastors have a responsibility to both genders. They cannot ignore an entire gender in their church.
More often than not, women get passed to the pastor’s wife or the wife of another leader, who has no theological degree, no counselling training, no experience of running a church. While the men in the church are pastored and counselled by fully trained pastors.
Imagine if a man had a problem and he went for counselling but was told I can’t speak to you unless you let someone else listen in. As a man would you go for counselling if someone else was in the room. Yet women are expected to do that. Or imagine if a man wanted to discuss and arrange the funeral of someone at a sensitive time and speak privately to a pastor. But the pastor said I will be bringing someone else with me as well. Just a few examples!
Are male born again Christians in leadership, that insecure.
Anyway I just wanted to let off steam. Lol.
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