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RickyZ said:
Our nephew, who is one of the most respectful and responsible people I know, is marrying his boyfriend.

Do we go out of respect for him, or stay away because of the gay issue?
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You could send a card expressing your respect and admiration for him together with your excuses for not going.

My wife has a female cousin who lived together with another woman for 30 years or so. We were never critical of their "marriage", but on the other hand we never showed any hint of approval; all we did was to pray. It's 3 years now that God called our cousin and what a fervent Christian she is! The same may happen to your nephew.
 
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Marcelo said:
You could send a card expressing your respect and admiration for him together with your excuses for not going.

My wife has a female cousin who lived together with another woman for 30 years or so. We were never critical of their "marriage", but on the other hand we never showed any hint of approval; all we did was to pray. It's 3 years now that God called our cousin and what a fervent Christian she is! The same may happen to your nephew.
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That's what we are hoping for. A question is, is he more likely to respond to the Holy Spirits call if we shun him or show him love?
 
RickyZ said:
That's what we are hoping for. A question is, is he more likely to respond to the Holy Spirits call if we shun him or show him love?
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Show him love, of course. But what do you consider "shunning" and what do you consider "showing love"?

In my mind, it's showing him love to not go. (Something like refusing to speak to him again would be shunning.) Not going to his wedding would not be shunning and going to his wedding would not be showing him love.

But that's just my two cents. (Hopefully it was really worth more than that though!)
 
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RickyZ said:
That's what we are hoping for. A question is, is he more likely to respond to the Holy Spirits call if we shun him or show him love?
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Brother it's silly 😜 not to go, he's your cousin right and it's an open door to share your testimony of Christ Jesus!

You tell them your not there to support the wedding in any way, shape or form. But he's your kinfolk and has always been decent to You. Just be upfront and honest and kind.

If it were one of my kinfolks they wouldn't let me within 25 miles of the place; I'd bring a big bag of buttered popcorn and a Coke and have the time of my life! 😮 I'm not joking

Besides, when it's said, is there anyone here who is opposed to this union, speak now or forever hold your peace! Can you do it?

But your not me, just my humble opinion!🤪 I believe it's a great opportunity!
 
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RickyZ said:
That's what we are hoping for. A question is, is he more likely to respond to the Holy Spirits call if we shun him or show him love?
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Suppose my son were to be ordained a Muslim priest (an Imam). I wouldn't attend his ordination despite the fact that I love him very much, and I don't think my non-attendance would prevent him from responding to a future call from God. True conversion comes from above, not from being nice all the time.
 
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Between a rock and a hard place. Its not flesh and blood that we wrestles against. Its the rulers in our government that say they are separate from the church and then change the meaning of words like marriage that takes away the love of God as a strand of three .God will not support same sex marriage any more than murder. As we are informed in the old testament lovingly rebuke a neighbor do not share in their guilt.

Two cannot walk together unless in agreement. Treat others with kindness treat him as a unbeliever Love showing one self friendly and maybe make a friend or renew a friendship . A brother loves at all time with all the aspects of God love found in 1 Corinthiam13.
 
RickyZ said:
Our nephew, who is one of the most respectful and responsible people I know, is marrying his boyfriend.

Do we go out of respect for him, or stay away because of the gay issue?
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I don't like giving personal advice.
My son went to a SS wedding about 2 years ago.
I told him he shouldn't go...he said he had to because it was someone too close to the family of his wife.

I don't know how I'd ever be able to attend.
I mean...just imagining two guys at the alter...
Do they get to kiss????
Do they hold hands walking back out?
What about at the reception?

It's all very unthinkable to me...
And I'd like to add that these movies that are made nowadays that show two guys kissing like it's nothing to be upset about...

They ARE desensitizing our kids and our kids WILL accept this when they're adults and have children of their own....

So, I guess the war is lost.
 
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RickyZ said:
Our nephew, who is one of the most respectful and responsible people I know, is marrying his boyfriend.

Do we go out of respect for him, or stay away because of the gay issue?
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All I can say is what did G-d tell you? Do what He says.

When my sister had one of her abortions she wanted me to take her to the clinic and drive her home. I asked my sister if she would have the baby and let me adopt it. She said "no". So while I was praying about G-d spoke to me and said, "The child is moving home and I should be there for the living". I knew what G-d meant so I was there for my sister.

I have a niece that is married to a woman. They both know I love them in the Lord, and well love my niece as a niece. They respected me enough to not invite me to the weeding. Yet, Amanda and I are close and talk all the time.

I do not know you exact position, but G-d does.... Pray, He will give you an answer.
 
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Go. You are not giving your blessing or approval by attending, rather you are keeping the relationship alive and you still love him regardless of his sin. Remember, it's the sick that need a doctor.
 
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MultilingualMessenger said:
Show him love, of course. But what do you consider "shunning" and what do you consider "showing love"?

In my mind, it's showing him love to not go. (Something like refusing to speak to him again would be shunning.) Not going to his wedding would not be shunning and going to his wedding would not be showing him love.

But that's just my two cents. (Hopefully it was really worth more than that though!)
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I get your point, but he won't see it that way.

Would you go to the wedding of a Buddhist? Muslim? Catholic?
 
GodsGrace101 said:
I don't like giving personal advice.
My son went to a SS wedding about 2 years ago.
I told him he shouldn't go...he said he had to because it was someone too close to the family of his wife.

I don't know how I'd ever be able to attend.
I mean...just imagining two guys at the alter...
Do they get to kiss????
Do they hold hands walking back out?
What about at the reception?

It's all very unthinkable to me...
And I'd like to add that these movies that are made nowadays that show two guys kissing like it's nothing to be upset about...

They ARE desensitizing our kids and our kids WILL accept this when they're adults and have children of their own....

So, I guess the war is lost.
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Not the war, just this battle. The war has already been won. We just need to get there :)

Even if I go I don't think I could sit thru the ceremony. I do expect them to hold hands and have a first kiss as mr and mr... honestly I think I'd lose my lunch if I were in the room.
 
Carry this further ... holidays, family birthdays and such - do you leave if they attend?
 
blue_ladybug said:
Hi Tabin, there is no "borderline" gay. Either he is or he isn't. Some guys act effeminate but are not gay. Others are. But there's no border line. Either he's totally straight OR he's totally gay..
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Since I don't live w/him Idk the whole situation. He's effeminate, popular, drugs involved and when asked won't give a 'straight' answer. I'm thinking our prayers are stopping him, in case he is thinking of crossing the line. Even if he's 'bi' that's not acceptable either. Prayers are indeed powerful, thx!
 
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GodsGrace101 said:
I don't like giving personal advice.
My son went to a SS wedding about 2 years ago.
I told him he shouldn't go...he said he had to because it was someone too close to the family of his wife.

I don't know how I'd ever be able to attend.
I mean...just imagining two guys at the alter...
Do they get to kiss????
Do they hold hands walking back out?
What about at the reception?

It's all very unthinkable to me...
And I'd like to add that these movies that are made nowadays that show two guys kissing like it's nothing to be upset about...

They ARE desensitizing our kids and our kids WILL accept this when they're adults and have children of their own....

So, I guess the war is lost.
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Besides, giving personal advice is the no.1 thing people do here at CC! ;)

JK!
 
JosephsDreams said:
Go. You are not giving your blessing or approval by attending, rather you are keeping the relationship alive and you still love him regardless of his sin. Remember, it's the sick that need a doctor.
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True, and Jesus never shunned a sinner. We are to welcome the sinner and shun the wayward saint. Which brings us back to, is he or is he not claiming to be Christian?
 
RickyZ said:
Our nephew, who is one of the most respectful and responsible people I know, is marrying his boyfriend.

Do we go out of respect for him, or stay away because of the gay issue?
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God loves him and respects him, so should you. Anyone that does not cannot call themselves a Christian...
 
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