So Just What IS Loneliness, Anyway? (Loneliness Defined.)
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I drew the same exact conclusion. I think those who get consumed with the idea of somebody watching them are either partaking in something illegal or socially unacceptable, or who are feeling so alone and yearn to be seen. Nice to know that I am not the only one. I think that is a bonus to why we have our God watching over us, night and day, we are never alone. Plus, when things seem so mysterious in our lives that it seems somebody has to be listening in, almost microscopically honing in, that to me is Him revealing His presence to us.
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Disconnectedness from interpersonal relationships either formal or informal, acquainted or not characterized by sensations of detachment or disinterest as well as isolation and a lack of inclusion. Either self induced, pathological, natural (due to geographic dislocation for example) or imposed. In my opinion it's a chronic lack of interaction with others on a day-to-day or semi regular basis. Human beings are social animals. Some thrive on minimal social interaction, but I do believe we all need to at least feel a part of the bigger society or else quite literally we go mad.
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Um my first self centered thought was dang that hurt, lol. Then most of my senses came flooding in as I thought about it, it is so true; all of us, even to ourselves, have unlikable, getting on nerves, moments. So I just wanted to say this about that... BAM, ain't that the truth, lol?!!
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, hugs.
Your humor is an awesome gift, well received often, lol. I had to use the conditional often to allow for those moments when they go over my head, lol, or when the content is hyper sarcastic, leaving the one on the receiving end a wee wounded, lol. Seriously though, thinks for keeping it witty.
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I think the general thought is that if we have people in our life, and sometimes even the more people, the better, we won't have any problems with loneliness.
Ironically, one of the biggest things that's helped me over the past few years is to slowly distance myself from one-side relationships. For example, I had a "friend" who called me and literally talked for an hour straight, and not once in that entire time did she ever ask anything about me or my life. After we hung up, I thought about the fact that our entire "friendship" had been pretty much been that way, and so that was a tie I chose to cut off.
I have nothing against people talking, of course--it just has to be a mutual, because I've found that just listening 100% of the time greatly contributes to my loneliness. I've also worked to distance myself from people whose unhealthy actions and/or frames of mind I knew I was actually enabling instead of helping, and I've had much more peace since then.
Yes, it's definitely led to me having far fewer people in my life, but I also feel a bit more clarity and focus.
However, I do struggle with the thought of selfishness, because I know that God calls us to serve, and we often do that best when we are giving to someone who can't, or won't, give back--even in the form of a one-sided conversation.
And yet, I also know that I have limited energy, so trying to find that balance of trying to be there for people, especially when they have nothing to give, and yet taking care of myself enough to be able to do so is always a personal challenge.
Ironically, one of the biggest things that's helped me over the past few years is to slowly distance myself from one-side relationships. For example, I had a "friend" who called me and literally talked for an hour straight, and not once in that entire time did she ever ask anything about me or my life. After we hung up, I thought about the fact that our entire "friendship" had been pretty much been that way, and so that was a tie I chose to cut off.
I have nothing against people talking, of course--it just has to be a mutual, because I've found that just listening 100% of the time greatly contributes to my loneliness. I've also worked to distance myself from people whose unhealthy actions and/or frames of mind I knew I was actually enabling instead of helping, and I've had much more peace since then.
Yes, it's definitely led to me having far fewer people in my life, but I also feel a bit more clarity and focus.
However, I do struggle with the thought of selfishness, because I know that God calls us to serve, and we often do that best when we are giving to someone who can't, or won't, give back--even in the form of a one-sided conversation.
And yet, I also know that I have limited energy, so trying to find that balance of trying to be there for people, especially when they have nothing to give, and yet taking care of myself enough to be able to do so is always a personal challenge.
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