I need help and prayer badly. I have had addiction to porn and sex for a very long time. I am away from my family for a couple of years and I am not doing well at all. I had a massage that ended with a happy ending. i am not doing well. I miss my family greatly but I am struggling. Please please please pray for me. I hate this aspect of me. I hate myself. Please help me. I am lost and at such a low I dont know what to do. Please pray for me.
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Mystang, Lord Jesus, I lift up Mystang to you in prayer, that you would set him free from this sexual bondage that he is in. Lord, your word says that you have come to set the captives free, and to give life more abundantly. I pray Lord that you would lead Mystang's onto the path of life & peace. Show him Your ways Lord, for your truth leads to freedom, life & peace. I pray that Mystang would learn of Your ways Lord, and cloth himself with Your truth daily, through reading the word & surrounding himself with other Christians. Lord, I know you hear Mystangs prayer for deliverance. He is loved by you! & Lord, You know way! May Mystang learn to trust in your leading Lord, and Victory will come! In Jesus name!
Ephesians 6:[h=3]Ephesians 6: The Armor of God...[SUP]10 [/SUP]Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. [SUP]11 [/SUP]Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. [SUP]13 [/SUP]Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. [SUP]14 [/SUP]Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, [SUP]15 [/SUP]and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. [SUP]16 [/SUP]In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. [SUP]17 [/SUP]Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.[/h]
Ephesians 6:[h=3]Ephesians 6: The Armor of God...[SUP]10 [/SUP]Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. [SUP]11 [/SUP]Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. [SUP]13 [/SUP]Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. [SUP]14 [/SUP]Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, [SUP]15 [/SUP]and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. [SUP]16 [/SUP]In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. [SUP]17 [/SUP]Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.[/h]
Praying for you. Breaking any addiction is so difficult. Please know there is hope. Taking it one day at a time, one hour at a time is sometimes the only place for us to start. Yet, starting on recovery is a decision we are not always willing to take. The way I get started is to say, "Just take the first step; you don't have to be perfect at it." You might want to check out this book. https://bit.ly/2KOU89i. Praying for you today.
I thank you all very much for the prayers and encouragement. This is the hardest struggle I have ever faced as I was exposed to porn from a very early age of 5. I am going to be finding and reaching out to a mens groups locally when I find a good church. I think that will do me a world of good. I know I long for true fellowship and I struggle with friendships as well but it is something I feel I need to help my healing. I also need someone to be accountable to as well. Would anyone know of a good site i can hook up with somone to talk with and be accountable? Thank you all again for the love, prayers and support.
Our Father who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. [SUP]10 [/SUP]Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so on earth. [SUP]11 [/SUP]Give us this day [SUP][b][/SUP]our daily bread. [SUP]12 [/SUP]And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. [SUP]13 [/SUP]And bring us not into temptation, but deliver us from [SUP][c][/SUP]the evil one.
I know this fight all too well. When I kicked alcohol many years ago I must have traded it for sex addiction. Its destroyed so much in my life, like alcohol NOW I'm pounding the mat like Buster DOuglas did against Tyson and he knocked Tyson out. I'm at that point now. Whats working for me is, I'm realzing if the Truth sets me free and it DOES< what is the lies ive been believing. For me its many about abandonment, feeling of powerlessness, fantasy cause anything was better than my childhood. So when I think those thoughts and think about going to my old sites, I think about the lies and combat them with TRUTH. That Jesus will never leave or forsake me, the one who he sets free is free indeed, 2 Corint 10:5 take every thought captive. Its working well, granted I'm only a few days in. Installed and fantastic porn blocker on my laptop k9 web protection. Install it and pray when u do it. Please keep us posted on your progress. Jesus loves YOU
We might have certain temptations that give us a hard time, but the Bible says if we hate sin, and do not want sin, by the Spirit we can abstain from sin, for a Spirit led life will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh, for they have crucified the flesh with the affections, and lusts, and show the ways of the Spirit, which there is no ways of the flesh, and God will not allow them to be tempted above what they are able to endure, and will give them an escape from the temptation so they can bear it.
So there is no excuse.
And also there is no struggling with sin, but not submitting to the Spirit, so there is no excuse.
And also we have a choice between good and evil, so if we do the evil we could of chose the good, so there is no excuse.
And also we sin because we enjoy it, for if we did not enjoy sin we would not do it, and anything we enjoy we are doing it on purpose and not trying to beat it, so there is no excuse.
There is no excuse and even people in the world can abstain from the sins they do not like without the Spirit.
Thou sinnest on purpose and then say you are struggling all the while enjoying the sin.
And you say you hate this aspect of you, and you hate yourself, but you still do it, that is strange, for if it causes you such self loathe why would you sin, for should not your mental health and being happy be better than pee pee feel good(I am sorry but it was funny).
Stop doing it for it is that simple.
And what is a happy ending after a massage, do you get a lollipop like being at the dentist office.
But I do not want to tell you what to do but there is no struggling with sin, but not submitting to the Spirit hating sin, which it is obvious you enjoy the sin so why cry about it, so go ahead and thump away for you might as well be happy, and content, if you are not going to change.
Better to sin and be happy and content, and not be right with God, then to sin and hate yourself, and not be right with God.
Your pitying of yourself to try to cause God to think that it bothers you if you sin so you can have His mercy will do no good, for God knows it is an act for if a person really cares they would not be sinning.
Jesus denied the world, and the temptations of the world, and suffered on the cross because of it, and we cannot endure a minor inconvenience of being tempted to look at porn, and sexual immorality.
Sorry for any harshness which I am not saying I am perfect for I get tempted with the same things as any other man, or at least the heterosexual men, and if I do happen to sin I know there is no excuse and I did it on purpose, and could of avoided it for I could of chose the good.
And if I did it for quite a time and found myself hating that aspect of me, and hating myself, I would quit, for more important to me is my mental health and being happy then sexual immorality.
I will take good mental health above marriage, career, being physically fit, and sexual immorality, for peace of mind,and serenity, and calmness, a sound mind, is better than any sin.
It is sad that people because of their belief system has taken away the guilt of living in sin to where it does not bother them, and say they cannot abstain from sin, and sin does not affect their relationship with God.
When you were getting your happy ending after the massage of the parts that were appropriate to massage, were you cursing, and saying I hate this, I cannot stand this, I loathe myself for this, oh the wretched man I am, oh why are you doing this to me woman.
I bet you were not.
So there is no excuse.
And also there is no struggling with sin, but not submitting to the Spirit, so there is no excuse.
And also we have a choice between good and evil, so if we do the evil we could of chose the good, so there is no excuse.
And also we sin because we enjoy it, for if we did not enjoy sin we would not do it, and anything we enjoy we are doing it on purpose and not trying to beat it, so there is no excuse.
There is no excuse and even people in the world can abstain from the sins they do not like without the Spirit.
Thou sinnest on purpose and then say you are struggling all the while enjoying the sin.
And you say you hate this aspect of you, and you hate yourself, but you still do it, that is strange, for if it causes you such self loathe why would you sin, for should not your mental health and being happy be better than pee pee feel good(I am sorry but it was funny).
Stop doing it for it is that simple.
And what is a happy ending after a massage, do you get a lollipop like being at the dentist office.
But I do not want to tell you what to do but there is no struggling with sin, but not submitting to the Spirit hating sin, which it is obvious you enjoy the sin so why cry about it, so go ahead and thump away for you might as well be happy, and content, if you are not going to change.
Better to sin and be happy and content, and not be right with God, then to sin and hate yourself, and not be right with God.
Your pitying of yourself to try to cause God to think that it bothers you if you sin so you can have His mercy will do no good, for God knows it is an act for if a person really cares they would not be sinning.
Jesus denied the world, and the temptations of the world, and suffered on the cross because of it, and we cannot endure a minor inconvenience of being tempted to look at porn, and sexual immorality.
Sorry for any harshness which I am not saying I am perfect for I get tempted with the same things as any other man, or at least the heterosexual men, and if I do happen to sin I know there is no excuse and I did it on purpose, and could of avoided it for I could of chose the good.
And if I did it for quite a time and found myself hating that aspect of me, and hating myself, I would quit, for more important to me is my mental health and being happy then sexual immorality.
I will take good mental health above marriage, career, being physically fit, and sexual immorality, for peace of mind,and serenity, and calmness, a sound mind, is better than any sin.
It is sad that people because of their belief system has taken away the guilt of living in sin to where it does not bother them, and say they cannot abstain from sin, and sin does not affect their relationship with God.
When you were getting your happy ending after the massage of the parts that were appropriate to massage, were you cursing, and saying I hate this, I cannot stand this, I loathe myself for this, oh the wretched man I am, oh why are you doing this to me woman.
I bet you were not.
MattforJesus that is a complete oversimplification of anyone's struggle with anything somone may be going through. While in words it is simple to say "no" it's not that easy. While there is no excuse there are underlying reasons somone struggles with something be it drugs sexual sin or whatever. If you have never struggled with something that the flesh want but the spirit despises them you are lucky, but I doubt it. I used to smoke. That was a 7 year STRUGGLE to quite. A struggle because I did enjoy it but knew it was bad for me and wrong. I quit drinking. That was not a struggle for me. That was easy. Also I would say never tell somone who is struggling with anything to just be happy in their sin. That does nothing to help them. Instead offer words of encouragement and prayers. I would also suggest you look deep inside yourself because what you have said to me indicates there is something you struggle with that you enjoy but also loath. You may have intended this to be helpful but in reality it was not. Not at all.
Last night I found a church that I think I will stick with. I believe that this place and these people are exactly what I need to get myself right with God and for my healing/recovery. They had a bible study and worship that started at 7pm but I sat in the parking lot since 330 because I knew if I didn't I would probably find a reason not to go. For the first time in a long time I feel like I am heading in the right direction. Again I do thank you for your prayers and words of encouragement as well as this interaction. I know I will need to be vigilant in my walk and in my life for the rest of my life but by submitting myself to God daily with the renewing of my mind daily God will not fail me. There is a reason God says to confess our sins to each other and that is it helps us be accountable to each other as well as to God.
Matt,
Let he without sin cast the first stone. This is the very first thing that came to my mind when I read your post. EVERY one of us struggles with SOMETHING that is not holy. It is VERY real to struggle with sin/temptation since we constantly struggle with Satan. No one can say they don't struggle with sin. To be sinful is human nature. The Bible says that none are born without it, so it ONLY makes SENSE that we do infact struggle with it for our entire lives.
Let he without sin cast the first stone. This is the very first thing that came to my mind when I read your post. EVERY one of us struggles with SOMETHING that is not holy. It is VERY real to struggle with sin/temptation since we constantly struggle with Satan. No one can say they don't struggle with sin. To be sinful is human nature. The Bible says that none are born without it, so it ONLY makes SENSE that we do infact struggle with it for our entire lives.
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Brother, don't just ask for prayers to overcome your weakness. you must read the Bible to know how to overcome it. (read Proverbs Chapter 10 and 1 Corinthians Chapter 6)
Abstain from every form of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22) So if you see a porno magazine or movie, don't look at it anymore.
You must also know that indulging in sex will result you to have sexually transmitted disease.
You must sober yourself (1 Peter 5:8)
Pray if temptation comes again if you see a porno stuff or tempted to have sex with another woman to commit fornication or extra marital sex or both.
And after praying, stay away from porn stuffs and a woman.
That's my advice as your Christian brethren.
Abstain from every form of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22) So if you see a porno magazine or movie, don't look at it anymore.
You must also know that indulging in sex will result you to have sexually transmitted disease.
You must sober yourself (1 Peter 5:8)
Pray if temptation comes again if you see a porno stuff or tempted to have sex with another woman to commit fornication or extra marital sex or both.
And after praying, stay away from porn stuffs and a woman.
That's my advice as your Christian brethren.
Hey Mystang, I'll be praying for you! I too need the same prayer.. I'm in my 20's and I struggle with it just like you. I've only watched it once in the last 65 days or so.. It's really hard I'm not going to lie.. but feel free to start a conversation with me. We can keep each other accountable and pray for each other. But all in all I'm happy you came on here to express this. That's the first big step
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