I would say, if this were the only difference, we could come to an agreement, because we both have the same desire,
1. we all want to see people follow god
2. we can't earn salvation,
which like you and many of us in here, we have been proclaiming these things as facts since day one,
the reason son there is so much heat is because these are not the only two beliefs, as a few have outright declaired openly, they believe works are required to be saved, and one said even the cross is not enough, we have our part in the act of salvation,
and it is here where all the division and discord is seen.
I understand, what I am referencing is the motivation of why I'm seeing people believe "works are required to be saved". When pressed hard enough I've noticed most of them are more in line with "works keep you saved". Their thought process being that "faith and belief" require works to be true.
What I am addressing is the deeper issue that good works actually come from relationship with God because He is the only One that knows what a true good work is. And at its core it comes from knowing Him and treating others how He treats us.