So far its his word against hers. We dont know what we dont know. So theres that.
You're right, and if he is innocent, then she should be prosecuted for making false accusations. But That still doesn't mean that anyone should have to put up with sexual harassment. Regardless of whether or not this case is true, some people seem to be complaining that women are complaining about sexual harassment in general.
Now no one should have to put up with sexual harassment,if that is indeed what has happened. But there is a lot of politics around this person so we'll have to wait and see.There are a whole lot of harassment claims out there that are just false. Then we have women who want attention,like Willie said,but only from certain men and thats hypocritical.
I have been reading different sites on my Facebook page seeing what secular people are thinking about this situation. I was rather surprised what women were saying about it. A lot seemed to say that it was a lot of foolishness and that it made the work place harder because men dont want to hire women that cry over everything thats said to them. Im not in the work place so I cant comment here,I was just interested in what peoples opinions were. Until it all comes out we dont know. By the way,sexual harassment goes both ways. My husband works with a woman that let it be known she was a former stripper and she has asked the men,the job has mostly men,if she should get a "boob job." She pulled her shirt down the other day to show her "tan lines". My husband ignores her and he says shes rude to him. Ya,happens both ways.
You're right that some people want attention. But I find it interesting that when a house is broken into I've never seen some say, "Well, maybe the victim left his/her door unlocked or put a sign saying come right in! If that's the case then he/she deserves to be robbed!" And when someone is mugged or murdered, most people don't say, "Well, maybe the victim called the attackers a bad name and in that case who can blame the criminal?" But when it comes to harassment or even rape, it becomes a case of, "Well, did the woman wear a short skirt? Was she flirting with her attacker/harasser? Well, in that case why does she complain?" I've heard a lot of, "Well that's different because [fill in reason]." But what it seems to boil down to is "Well, in that case it might be me!" or "But people don't have a right to murder, assault, or steal! But everyone knows it's a God given right that people should be allowed to sexually harass others!" Hmmm...strange, I don't remember the Bible saying to put the victim on trial in cases of harassment but not in cases of robbery or murder. I
do remember verses demonstrating that people are responsible for their own actions and that every criminal deserves a trial. In the course of events, naturally the exact circumstances would be brought to light, but that's for every crime. Only it seems to me that very few crimes besides harassment or assault cause people to suspect the victim of provoking an attack...
And also, there's a difference between wanting to look nice and wanting to be harassed. Some women do wear clothing that's too tight or too revealing and that's not right. But what about a woman that wears a dress that brings out her eyes because she thinks she looks pretty in it? Or a dress that shows that she has a figure but isn't form fitting? Likely she would like compliments, but there's a huge difference between wanting, "That's a nice dress. You look pretty today." and "You have a fine *****." Modesty doesn't mean wearing baggy clothing and making sure your hair is messed up in case someone might possibly look your way.
Yes, I imagine a lot of sexual harassers don't want to work with women who cry about being harassed. Just like a rapist doesn't want to be around a victim who would go to the police. And domestic abusers don't want their victims to whine about being hit. But it doesn't matter what the harassers want; contrary to what they believe, they
should be in control of their own mouths and bodies and if they hurt or harass someone else they
should be punished. The world doesn't exist to make sure they can do whatever they want, whenever they want, to whomever they want and never face any consequences. I'd imagine some parents are on this site. If your kid curses at you, is it wrong for you to punish him/her? After all, if men don't want to work with women who cry over harassment, why should kids want to have parents that get angry about every little instance of disrespect?
Yes, it does happen both ways. Women harass men just as men harass women. But neither way is right. Your husband would be perfectly within his rights to complain to HR and she should be disciplined. That doesn't mean men can harass women because some women harass men as well.