How to know when it's Really official?

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ManiaStar

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Lynx said:
Oddly enough when I read the OP my music-nerd brain started playing an old song.

"How bout the way he acts
Oh no, that's not the way
You're not listening to what I say
If you wanna know
If he loves you so
It's in his kiss
(That's where it is!)"
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Hmm, interesting..... So..... is the song saying if it's a passionate kiss then i should already know?

I will talk to him. I just need to prepare my heart/mind for it first by praying about the situation.
 
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ManiaStar said:
Hmm, interesting..... So..... is the song saying if it's a passionate kiss then i should already know?

I will talk to him. I just need to prepare my heart/mind for it first by praying about the situation.
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Me thinks the kisses will be more meaningful when there is more certainty about the relationship.

Kisses shouldn't hold a relationship together. They should be a reflection of relationship that is established, growing, and built on commitment and trust.
 
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ManiaStar

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Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
Me thinks the kisses will be more meaningful when there is more certainty about the relationship.

Kisses shouldn't hold a relationship together. They should be a reflection of relationship that is established, growing, and built on commitment and trust.
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What if you feel "one" with the other person?

I mean, I realize that kissing/hugging/cuddling, etc. can't hold everything together, but, what about oneness, closeness, togetherness, etc.?
 
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ManiaStar said:
What if you feel "one" with the other person?

I mean, I realize that kissing/hugging/cuddling, etc. can't hold everything together, but, what about oneness, closeness, togetherness, etc.?
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What about peace, security, trust, and confidence?

These 4 you can feel whether the bodies are near or apart in a serious and committed relationship.
 
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No commitment should mean no intimacy. As the level of commitment grows, intimacy also grows. It's like a triangle. The tip of the triangle is the highest level of commitment which is marriage and the highest level of intimacy which is the sexual union.
 
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I believe it's official once the 2 have the "talk" lol


I didn't consider my now fiance as my boyfriend until he asked for us to be exclusive.
 
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I think it's time we all faced the truth here... It's never going to be official..


 
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zeroturbulence said:
I think it's time we all faced the truth here... It's never going to be official..


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Please, someone tell me before I go quietly insane...WHO is that actor?? Can't place him at all!
 
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Can't get married then------ it's an unwritten rule...
 
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ManiaStar said:
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Honestly, I'm afraid to bring the topic up w/ him. I just have fear. But, I will share that he and I started kissing about 6 months ago and had been getting much closer/cuddling and kissing a lot. Nothing has been mentioned as to what we're doing really but, I am curious.

I guess instead of it being official, then, what would the signs be that you would be more then just friends?
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Good rule of thumb: If you can't talk about the cuddles, kissing, emotions etc, then you shouldn't be engaging in it. That stuff's just too powerful to play around with. I don't know if there's an easy way to bring it up, I do know that if you really care about each other, you just adult up (kind of like man up) and push through the awkwardness and laugh about it later.

From what you're saying though, sounds like there's a decent chance either 1) you may be his rebound girl or 2) He may not know how to function without a girl that he treats as his significant other. What is it you're actually afraid of in bringing this topic up? Sounds like you've known each other forever and been close for a while; that to me sounds like a recipe for you can look like idiots in front of each other and it won't matter too much.
 
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ManiaStar said:
Good articles. With the first link, I feel I can most relate to numbers 6 and 7 -- Vagueness and Test driving a new car.

In the second article, comparing to what was said, it would seem like he and i are dating and have gone on like 100+ dates to date.
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I would not want to be numbers 6 or 7.
 
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When your twitter account says #itsofficial XD jk
 
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I hereby declare, by the power vested in me by the State of Confuscious, and by the esteemed Over-40 Hello-Kitty Fan Club, that on this day, December thirtieth in the two-thousandth-and-sixteenth year of our Lord... that it is NOW INDEED... OFFICIAL!!
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No need to thank me...
 
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zeroturbulence said:
I hereby declare, by the power vested in me by the State of Confuscious, and by the esteemed Over-40 Hello-Kitty Fan Club, that on this day, December thirtieth in the two-thousandth-and-sixteenth year of our Lord... that it is NOW INDEED... OFFICIAL!!
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No need to thank me...
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I would say talking about it because to me in any relationship communication is very important
 
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ManiaStar said:
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Honestly, I'm afraid to bring the topic up w/ him. I just have fear. But, I will share that he and I started kissing about 6 months ago and had been getting much closer/cuddling and kissing a lot. Nothing has been mentioned as to what we're doing really but, I am curious.

I guess instead of it being official, then, what would the signs be that you would be more then just friends?
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Sounds official to me. I would not take it any farther than the kissing and cuddling. If he wants more than that you should insist that he buys you an engagement ring and a wedding ring. After you're married than it's official.
 
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