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MsBoomie

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I wonder why men and women of God can't just be open & honest with one another? Why has dating become a game? Why won't the opposite sex just come out and tell each other their likes and dislikes? Why do you need to try and figure out if some is interested in you? What's wrong with telling the opposite sex, Yes I'm interested or I would like to go on a date . I don't know I guess these questions are kind of like asking what came first the chicken or the egg?
 
Pipp

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In most cases fear of rejection plays a large part in it.
 
blue_ladybug

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MsBoomie said:
I wonder why men and women of God can't just be open & honest with one another? Why has dating become a game? Why won't the opposite sex just come out and tell each other their likes and dislikes? Why do you need to try and figure out if some is interested in you? What's wrong with telling the opposite sex, Yes I'm interested or I would like to go on a date . I don't know I guess these questions are kind of like asking what came first the chicken or the egg?
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​These are questions that really have no answers. LOL. I think it's because they're too shy or scared to say "I really like you." They don't want to scare each other off so they do the little pussyfooting around the issue. lol.. As for the chicken and the egg, there had to be a chicken to lay the egg, but there had to be an egg to hatch the chicken. I've always been stumped by that question..lol.. :)
 
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Ugly

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I think a lot of it is the influence of secular culture becoming more and more invasive in the church. Especially do to the 'seeker sensitive' movement.
 
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Kaycie

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MsBoomie said:
I wonder why men and women of God can't just be open & honest with one another? Why has dating become a game? Why won't the opposite sex just come out and tell each other their likes and dislikes? Why do you need to try and figure out if some is interested in you? What's wrong with telling the opposite sex, Yes I'm interested or I would like to go on a date . I don't know I guess these questions are kind of like asking what came first the chicken or the egg?
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I agree. (And it was the chicken lol)
 
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MsBoomie

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I agree! Rejection is a fear of a lot of people including me.
 
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MsBoomie

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Thanks for not taking me too serious LOL. . And the chicken came first. ..LOL
 
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MsBoomie

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Ugly, I've never thought about that.
 
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Nicee

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I remember the good old days when a guy is shy to tell a girl he loves her n want to be her bf. If the girl has seen that he has open himself up to her she will just chuckle and say something like "I know what u want to say so just say it." and the guy would look all nervous---suddenly, the girl just lay one one him and he starts blushing. The girl just smile simply and say yes. GOOD TIMES. I wish those days would come when. HAPPILY EVER AFTER MEANT HAPPILY EVER AFTER. "In those days the love of many will drew cold" More than 50% of the population r single. NO SURPRISE THERE
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BelovedI

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It is good to not awaken love before it's time.:)
Sometimes we just have to wait for somethings and someones. Being honest however is not an option for us who are Christians in romantic relationships or others. The fear of man brings a snare and I have found that the fear of man as in people has made some to lie. It is good to fear God rejecting us instead of people.:)
 
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biscuit

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MsBoomie said:
I wonder why men and women of God can't just be open & honest with one another? Why has dating become a game? Why won't the opposite sex just come out and tell each other their likes and dislikes? Why do you need to try and figure out if some is interested in you? What's wrong with telling the opposite sex, Yes I'm interested or I would like to go on a date . I don't know I guess these questions are kind of like asking what came first the chicken or the egg?
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Those are "red flags" and the individual should move on and not waste his or her time.
 
wisebeardman

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You won't see me chasing anyone. if someone wants something to do with me then they can tell me, otherwise leave me be.
 
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Shouryu

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BelovedI said:
It is good to not awaken love before it's time.:)
Sometimes we just have to wait for somethings and someones. Being honest however is not an option for us who are Christians in romantic relationships or others. The fear of man brings a snare and I have found that the fear of man as in people has made some to lie. It is good to fear God rejecting us instead of people.:)
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Uh...so, here's a silly question, in response to the highlighted portion.

WHY NOT? How is honesty NOT an option? How is the choice of being honest or dishonest EVEN AN OPTION to begin with? ESPECIALLY in a relationship between two Christians...why would you be anything less than honest?
 
Misty77

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Shouryu said:
Uh...so, here's a silly question, in response to the highlighted portion.

WHY NOT? How is honesty NOT an option? How is the choice of being honest or dishonest EVEN AN OPTION to begin with? ESPECIALLY in a relationship between two Christians...why would you be anything less than honest?
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Maybe I'm misreading it, but I've found that a lot of people say "it's not an option" when they really mean to say "it's not optional, but mandatory."
 
Lynx

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That is how I as well read it.
 
PopClick

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Shouryu said:
Uh...so, here's a silly question, in response to the highlighted portion.

WHY NOT? How is honesty NOT an option? How is the choice of being honest or dishonest EVEN AN OPTION to begin with? ESPECIALLY in a relationship between two Christians...why would you be anything less than honest?
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I thought she meant that if someone is already in a relationship with person A, then it's not an option to tell person B that they like them.
 
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Shouryu

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I'm so confused.
 
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MsBoomie

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Thanks for all of the different responses. Keep them coming. I just love reading all of them.
 
Roh_Chris

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Some of the responses have left me confuzzled.... :confused:
 
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