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I do not like the chase, because of what is at the end of the chase.
It ends with me wondering why I would choose to chase after something that does not want me well enough to cling to me like God describes. So I stop chasing and then somehow it is my fault that things didn't work out; even though I am not the one running away.
Run to me and I'll be there.
It ends with me wondering why I would choose to chase after something that does not want me well enough to cling to me like God describes. So I stop chasing and then somehow it is my fault that things didn't work out; even though I am not the one running away.
Run to me and I'll be there.
P
when I see someone running outwardly instead of inwardly to me .. I am instantly reminded of a horse..
a wild horse wants to run, they kick, they fight the reigns , rear their head, and take off ..they run outwardly.. To some place ..there is one of two things the person standing in the arena with that horse can do..
hold on to the reigns , get kicked, get dragged around , as well as get rope burns in your hands to a point they will bleed.. some nasty injuries can occur holding on..
OR
the second it happens , you let go of the reigns and let them run to a point of exhaustion .. Even to other pastures sometimes.. a good trainer, will wait until the point of exhaustion comes to the horse before even attempting to approach it again .. it's a pretty slow process.. Requires patience , and long periods of waiting .. I've watched some even come back from way off .. back into the barn .. breaking a wild horse who has run in freedom for long periods of time ..can be broken of their spirit .. I've seen that happen too.. oh no.. thats not the way you train .. You let the horse come to you.. they bend to their own will.. not yours ..
a wild horse wants to run, they kick, they fight the reigns , rear their head, and take off ..they run outwardly.. To some place ..there is one of two things the person standing in the arena with that horse can do..
hold on to the reigns , get kicked, get dragged around , as well as get rope burns in your hands to a point they will bleed.. some nasty injuries can occur holding on..
OR
the second it happens , you let go of the reigns and let them run to a point of exhaustion .. Even to other pastures sometimes.. a good trainer, will wait until the point of exhaustion comes to the horse before even attempting to approach it again .. it's a pretty slow process.. Requires patience , and long periods of waiting .. I've watched some even come back from way off .. back into the barn .. breaking a wild horse who has run in freedom for long periods of time ..can be broken of their spirit .. I've seen that happen too.. oh no.. thats not the way you train .. You let the horse come to you.. they bend to their own will.. not yours ..
Like others have said, I don't play hard to get, but I am hard to get. Playing hard to get is stupid and manipulative.
On the other hand, I love my God and my possible future husband enough to put up a healthy defense and not let just any random charmer off the street waltz his way into my heart.
I like what someone else said about expressing interest without taking over the role of pursuer. To use the imagery of the princess locked away in a tower (flawed analogy, I know. Work with me!), I definitely think it's still the man's job to overcome the obstacles in order to rescue her, but I also don't see anything wrong with the princess assuring him that she would even like to be rescued.
On the other hand, I love my God and my possible future husband enough to put up a healthy defense and not let just any random charmer off the street waltz his way into my heart.
I like what someone else said about expressing interest without taking over the role of pursuer. To use the imagery of the princess locked away in a tower (flawed analogy, I know. Work with me!), I definitely think it's still the man's job to overcome the obstacles in order to rescue her, but I also don't see anything wrong with the princess assuring him that she would even like to be rescued.
It's never important to test another person. I think that statement says wrong enough. If mothers and fathers had our best intentions in mind, then they would be the one's we went to. But they aren't because no one can save you. The distance is needed to protect yourself from harm, not to be difficult. A merited woman will be able to handle herself, by herself, with her God. A virtuous woman will do the same, but with more distance than is planned.
Wisdom is her name because she knows that men are made to harm, so much like women. It will come eventually, so why not see how they react? Contact is made before dating, to see what they're worth. If I didn't have the value then why would I ask it of them? Because they have to fight too, and find their own desire. I love women to do death, but no more than I love man.
Wisdom is her name because she knows that men are made to harm, so much like women. It will come eventually, so why not see how they react? Contact is made before dating, to see what they're worth. If I didn't have the value then why would I ask it of them? Because they have to fight too, and find their own desire. I love women to do death, but no more than I love man.
K
As long as I'm sure he is actually interested in me, I will reciprocate his actions by my reaction. I think the dilemma would be knowing when someone is interested. ''She's not interested because she didn't laugh at my joke'', or, ''He is not interested because he didn't call me at 10 o' clock, he called me at 10:20''. It is my conviction that if a guy is genuinely interested he will be the initiator. If I'm interested, I will naturally answer to his interest. If he talks about going out, I will say yes; if he wants to have a conversation, I will follow and contribute to the conversation; if he wants to spend more time together, I will make a space for him, etc.
When I play hard to get, it's because I'm ultimately not interested. Like there was a guy who asked me out months ago and he would text me EVERY day, even if I stopped replying to his texts. I was not playing hard to get. I was sincerely NOT INTERESTED.
When I play hard to get, it's because I'm ultimately not interested. Like there was a guy who asked me out months ago and he would text me EVERY day, even if I stopped replying to his texts. I was not playing hard to get. I was sincerely NOT INTERESTED.
B
Like others have said, I don't play hard to get, but I am hard to get. Playing hard to get is stupid and manipulative.
On the other hand, I love my God and my possible future husband enough to put up a healthy defense and not let just any random charmer off the street waltz his way into my heart.
I like what someone else said about expressing interest without taking over the role of pursuer. To use the imagery of the princess locked away in a tower (flawed analogy, I know. Work with me!), I definitely think it's still the man's job to overcome the obstacles in order to rescue her, but I also don't see anything wrong with the princess assuring him that she would even like to be rescued.
On the other hand, I love my God and my possible future husband enough to put up a healthy defense and not let just any random charmer off the street waltz his way into my heart.
I like what someone else said about expressing interest without taking over the role of pursuer. To use the imagery of the princess locked away in a tower (flawed analogy, I know. Work with me!), I definitely think it's still the man's job to overcome the obstacles in order to rescue her, but I also don't see anything wrong with the princess assuring him that she would even like to be rescued.
It works too...
If a guy expresses interest in me, and I'm not interested, I tell him. No games, no ignoring, I don't lead any one on. I'm kind about it, but firm. If he chooses to pursue me, then I will have the conversation with him again. My ex thought the way to get me back was to strongly pursue me. After 7 weeks of my ex not leaving me alone, I told him I would get my best friend's brother in law involved (as per his offer). See, Mark is a prison guard, and a very scary man. My ex never called me again.
There is a counting of the Cost, when it comes to relationships.
A man would be a fool if he set out to build a relationship but neither had the means, Honor, nor the blueprints to complete it. If I am really interested in a woman, I have to believe that I have some shot at showing her what that means to me.
If I pledged my loyalty to one woman and sought after her with all my heart, yet I owed a great debt or if whom she trusts doesn't like us together, she would find me weighed and measured and found wanting. There are things that muddy the waters for a man with even the best of chances.
Real life isn't Aladdin, and no amount of spectacle or Volume of Love can bridge the gap between the one who is worthy of love, and the one who would cross oceans to find it. Love is not a vacancy to be filled, it is the overflow of what already lies within us, to share with someone who will cherish it as we do. It is not to be summoned upon command but, inspired and drawn from within us.
So, sometimes, to chase after a woman who would captivate us, heart mind and body, is to willingly admit that we see the possibility of both ends, not only if we should succeed but if we should fail. Sometimes it is better, in spite of all that is at stake and how dear it is, to bow out, rather than find ourselves wishing that we had saved ourselves the trouble and simply fallen on our sword in the first place. Because in the end the effect is the same inside.
A man would be a fool if he set out to build a relationship but neither had the means, Honor, nor the blueprints to complete it. If I am really interested in a woman, I have to believe that I have some shot at showing her what that means to me.
If I pledged my loyalty to one woman and sought after her with all my heart, yet I owed a great debt or if whom she trusts doesn't like us together, she would find me weighed and measured and found wanting. There are things that muddy the waters for a man with even the best of chances.
Real life isn't Aladdin, and no amount of spectacle or Volume of Love can bridge the gap between the one who is worthy of love, and the one who would cross oceans to find it. Love is not a vacancy to be filled, it is the overflow of what already lies within us, to share with someone who will cherish it as we do. It is not to be summoned upon command but, inspired and drawn from within us.
So, sometimes, to chase after a woman who would captivate us, heart mind and body, is to willingly admit that we see the possibility of both ends, not only if we should succeed but if we should fail. Sometimes it is better, in spite of all that is at stake and how dear it is, to bow out, rather than find ourselves wishing that we had saved ourselves the trouble and simply fallen on our sword in the first place. Because in the end the effect is the same inside.
